[Ithappenstoall]

Does it happen often that a woman is not a big fan of oral sex.

I use to date this girl to whom I always wanted to give oral but she never wanted it. She always said it grossed her out and that she never got full pleasure out of it and had her best orgasm from intercourse.

Any comments?

[positiveparent]

Its not unheard of for a woman to not want oral sex, and same applies with men.

Perhaps this girl had a b/f who wasn't really knowing what he was doing in that dept and it put her off.

Perhaps she's been brought up to think sex and certain acts of a sexual nature aren't clean.

I would say I too had some of my best orgasms through intercourse, however Im a tanrik, so that's possibly why.

There could be a 101 reasons, but some women just aren't into oral on them. If I am honest I preferred to give it, although I enjoyed both, but would happily just give to him.

[KBC]

You say girl and that makes me wonder her age group.

Some females at a younger age don't have confidence in their bodies and aren't experienced enough for oral sex,they need time and patience from a compassionate partner.

My ex had such issues when we first met,many years back.Just out of school and hadn't had much oral performed on her,much less on her partners.In time all went from total newness to acclimation,this felt better than that and that doesn't produce the results she wanted... experience does play a major roll.

PS.. If you ever figure the female mind out, let the rest of society in on the secrets, so far there have been no 100% sure fire methods to please all women.Each person is different.

[smoothy]

Its true... most because of sexual repression... some just refuse to allow the act for whatever reason they have. Some its because the fool trying it doesn't have a clue what he's doing.

Or any combination of those.

[lickemlolly]

I used to feel that way but that stemmed from previous partners not knowing what they were doing.. so I have to concur on previous theories posted here.. but there is nothing wrong with her not wanting you to preform oral sex on her...

[Synnen]

I used to HATE oral sex.

Most boys (I use that word because of your use of the word "girl") don't have a freaking clue how the female body works, and get their instructions from porn (OW! ).

It took several partners before I found one that was good enough and patient enough to get me to relax enough to enjoy it at all--and it took being married to that man for 3 years before I could have an orgasm from it.

MANY women don't enjoy receiving oral sex, especially younger women--and I really do attribute it to the fact that young men don't have a clue how to GIVE oral sex.

Be patient--and read some books on how to give good oral sex.

[Enigma1999]

Hello Ithappens,

I agree with Synnen... Some men don't really know what they are doing.

I have a close friend, and she and I compare notes every now and then about sex. She has a hard time reaching orgasm with oral. She, however, has orgasms through sex. She really doesn't enjoy oral. Huh. Then there is me, which I happen to love oral. I have only had two partners, my exhusband, and my ex boyfriend. With my ex husband, I absolutley loved when he went down on me. He knew exactly the spots and I'm not kidding when I tell you this, but most of the time it would only take 45 seconds to reach orgasm. Then there was my ex boyfriend, who really didn't know what he was doing, and I would have to guide him. It would take a long time.

So, I agree that you try to read up on it. She may come around.

Good luck.

[positiveparent]

Oral sex isn't that when you just talk about it! Hehe