[lyrasamber]

My friend and I like the same guy, she liked him first but when they were dating she lied to him. She still likes him but he will never like her back, he likes me. I took his number out of her phone one night and asked her if I could text him, she told me I could and I did. Then a few days later she got extremely angry that I was txting him. I told her I would stop but she told me just to keep txting him, so I did. I though we were fine but as it turns out she was still angery. Now the second time we were together I asked her again, I knew she was up set but she told me to keep txting him, so I did. But now it's my friendship with her, or a relationship with him. He's a nice guy, and she's a good friend, but my mom says that I should go for the guy because she doesn't like me hanging out with her any way... I'm just not sure what to do, we go to a small school and when school starts back up again it could be bad. ( I understand why he wouldn't want to date her again, she ugly, dirty, and she sleeps around with almost everyone!! ) Please help me in making the right decision! Thank you, Meredith

[Kitkat22]

How old are you all?

[soho1]

LOL, I agree with your mom. If your "friend" is as bad as you say, why hang out with her?

Having said that, which relationship will be better for you? One with her and not him, or one with him and not her?

Not saying there's no middle ground, but she's transferring her opinion of him onto you because you are with him.

[yasmin19]

I think that regardless of the type of person she is... what type of person are you?

If your friend is important enough for you to have doubt over whether to be with this guy then you must care about her. Some people are bad influences but if you care about her then you won't want to lose her as a friend or hurt her.

But then... If he means more to you, then go for it.
Maybe just allow time for everyone involved to step back. If in a month or so you and him are still interested in each other then go for it and maybe by then she will be more over him.
That way you don't need to lose anybody from your life.
Talk it through with her properly, ask her how she feels.
And put yourself in her shoes...

Im sure you know deep down what you want to do... just go with that :) you know yourself and the situation better than anyone answering this question.

[Kitkat22]

I think that regardless of the type of person she is...what type of person are you?

If your friend is important enough for you to have doubt over whether to be with this guy then you must care about her. Some people are bad influences but if you care about her then you won't want to lose her as a friend or hurt her.

But then... If he means more to you, then go for it.
Maybe just allow time for everyone involved to step back. If in a month or so you and him are still interested in each other then go for it and maybe by then she will be more over him.
That way you don't need to lose anybody from your life.
Talk it through with her properly, ask her how she feels.
And put yourself in her shoes...

Im sure you know deep down what you want to do.... just go with that :) you know yourself and the situation better than anyone answering this question.

Again... How old are you?

[redhed35]

You think this 'friend' is ugly and dirty? That's quite something to say about a friend.

My advice,find new friends,don't go near the guy and mature a little before you think about dating,but in saying that I'm not your mother.