[cindywang0905]

My exboyfriend and I dated for a month only then he broke up with me. I chose not to stay friends.Then few days ago he texted me asking me if we can stay friends. We got a chance to talk on msn and the next day we met. We hugged and kissed but he didn't say anything to me. He bumped into his friend on street and he told me to hide:mad:. What does he mean? Does he want me back or what?

[Wondergirl]

I'm guessing you know what 99% of us here are going to tell you.

[talaniman]

How old are you??

[CarrotTalker]

Why on earth would he tell you to hide?

Only a month in and he broke up with you? Now he wants to be back together, but doesn't what his friend to see? Sounds to me like he is using you as an option.

Edit: I Just noticed you already have an open thread there: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...ck-471012.html

Please don't open multiple threads for the same question/topic.

[Jlesnik33]

He doesn't want you back, if he wanted you back he wouldn't hide you from his friends.

And ex and I broke up after only a month and a half and the first time we hung out after the breakup we hugged and kissed.. I feel it happened because it was something we were use to when seeing each other.

I say forget about this guy and move on. If he is hiding you while you guys are just friends... there really is a problem.

[cindywang0905]

Yeah can admin delete the other post please? Because I have no idea how come it's under the teen topic. Sorry for the doubling posting. Thought the thread will be more viewed in this section

[talaniman]

Are you a teen? Are you in school? How old are you? It was moved to give you age appropriate advice.

Hugging and kissing is fine, but you need to ask him your questions to get answers. That's my advice. Talk to him and find out what's on his mind.

[cindywang0905]

I am not a teen. I am 20+

[friend4u178]

i am not a teen. i am 20+

Hi Cindy

I would say because you originally posted in the Teens section that's where it was moved to.

We will get it moved back to Relationships for you.

[Showme_urmove]

Hey cindywang!
I was kind of in the same dilemma as you, but me and my ex dated for 2 months then she wanted move in and broke up on our anniversary.
She wanted to be friends, I took everyone's advice and did no contact cause it hurts just to talk to her. And she txted me saying she misses me and all that BS, she said why am I not fighting for her and all that Cr*&p. I just stopped all contact with her, realizing things were not going to get better, and things are not going to change even though we get back together.
She was using me to fill the void of emptiness she has inside. And what your ex is doing is the same thing, He miss having someone there to talk to and kiss, but doesn't want to do anything with you but just that. Just for him to hope that you will do friends of benefit.
Only a month woow just move on with your life and enjoy that his only a history, his not worth it and you deserve someone better. Trust me on this we all deserve someone better.

[I wish]

Sounds like he just wants some action, i.e. friends with benefits, booty call.

If he wanted to pursue a more serious relationship, he would let you know and not lead you on like that.

But to be sure, why not just ask him to clarify?

[Devorameira]

No way that he's wanting back with you. Sounds like he wants to be friends with benefits to me.

I'd cut it off right now. Any man that tells you to hide so no one sees him talking to you is a jerk.

[talaniman]

Since you older than teens, he wants you as his secret thing, and that's something to be wary of as he may have another that his friends know about.

Either way run fast from him, and his buddies

[cindywang0905]

Yeah I agree with you guys too. But the thing is, I never have sex with him and he knows I am not going to have sex with him because I am still a virgin. So does he still want to be friends with benefit?

[I wish]

Friends with benefits doesn't have to only include sex. If he only wants to kiss and make out with you, without the label of boyfriend and girlfriend, isn't that friends with benefits?

Bottom line is, if you want something, don't settle for less. If you want a serious relationship, then ask for one. If he can't provide it, then walk away.

[cindywang0905]

He said he always has a shield up to protect himself. So I always keep silent with the things I am not happy with, I don't want to hurt him or bother him. But then I am unhappy

[friend4u178]

he said he always has a shield up to protect himself. So I always keep silent with the things i am not happy with, i dont want to hurt him or bother him. but then i am unhappy

Not your problem anymore , remember he's your Ex so you don't hold any responsibility for his feelings , he certainly doesn't seem to care about yours.

Bottom line is he doesn't want to be with you but he's quite happy for you to be hanging on with some hope that he may want you back. That does you no good and just stops you from starting to heal and get on with your life without him.

[talaniman]

Your unhappy because you want to believe he cares, but deep down, you know he doesn't.

Leave him alone or have your feelings used against you because he KNOWS you care, and may be weak for him. You have proven that by your past actions.

[cindywang0905]

I am meeting up with this guy to clear up everything. Anyone can suggest me what to tell him?:S

[talaniman]

Good bye!