[backpacker1]

He dumped me and it is killing me. I've never felt such pain in my life. He was just such a great guy. And what if I never meet someone like him? He broke up with me because he said he thought I liked him more than he liked me. We are also going off to different colleges in the fall.. and I've always imagined going to college independently but it just hurts! Please any advice I'd really appreciate it. Oh he was also my first boyfriend so I've never gone through this before. Does it ever end?
Thanks

[Gemini54]

Hi Backpacker, you only need to post one question, rather than three - otherwise it gets confusing for people answering your questions, and you won't get as good a result.

I'm really sorry to hear that your first love has dumped you. It's harder when you get dumped because you don't have a say in it. Welcome to your first meaningful relationship experience. You don't know it now, but this will make you stronger in the long run. Trust me, it will. In the meantime, read the stickies at the top of this forum, it's really important that you have as little contact as possible with him because it just makes the pain worse.

The pain does end, but it takes time. Think of it like a death, you need to feel the pain and grieve the loss before you can get better and feel better.

Make sure you cry a lot, talk to your friends and family and tell them how you feel. Make sure to keep occupied and not just sit at home eating ice cream and cookies. Make sure to look after yourself and look nice too.

Feeling the pain is difficult, but in the end it makes you feel better.

By the time you get to College you'll be looking forward to the experience and ready to meet new people. You'll be fine.

[Strength89]

Hello,

First off, You won't meet someone like him ever again (everyone is unique) but you WILL meet someone just as wonderful if not better.

Break ups are normal (of course) and all the emotions you are feeling right now are normal too so don't worry, in time, all of the pain will go away and you'll be a brand new person.

Healing from any type of break up will take time so give yourself time to mourn the death of the relationship and give yourself time to truly heal and move on from the relationship so you won't fall back into it and get stuck in a never ending cycle.

Good luck, keep your head up and remember, there is always a rainbow after the rain.

[sphx26]

Hello Backpacker,well, you know what they say, first cut is the deepest, don't give up hope though, eventually the pain will go away. Everybody goes through the pain, so believe us when we say it is best to cut all contacts with him now while you heal. It might not seem the best option to you now because you like to talk to him but trust me,unless he asks for reconciliation, your best option is really to go NC. My only regret is not doing NC the moment I got dumped, I stuck around as her friend and end up grieving all over again. It's ironic because the minute I cut contact, I felt better, and really feel it getting better everyday.

The first few days of NC are the hardest, but just stay strong and you'll manage. That's how most, if not all of us survive and maintain our sanity. You have so much ahead of you, life has so much to offer. Take care~