[Coca Cola]

I found messages that my "husband" left another woman saying that he regrets leaving her and he would give up the world to have an opportunity to be with her again. He said that he is in love with her and he wants to be her child's daddy.

She is also married.

We have been married for 2 years and together for 5. I wrote her a nasty email. She is ugly.

I want a divorce but am afraid that I can't make it financially because he is the type to revenge on me... he would try to screw me over because I caught him.

This isn't the first time. Long story short... he did the same thing last year with an ex friend of mine. Yea. Great husband.

What do I do?

[Gemini54]

Um, can I ask why you married him? And, more to the point, why did he marry you? He doesn't seem to want to BE in the marriage does he?

I don't see much chance for 'rehabilitation' in this marriage - it sounds like a sham - so I'm not going to suggest counseling or even much talking - unless of course, you want to go down that path.

I will suggest that you speak to a good lawyer who can advise you on how to protect your financial assets, so that he can't 'revenge' you.

Maybe you can yourself go to counseling, down the track, to understand why you chose a man like this.

[Jake2008]

I ageree with Gemini, and also think that you sound very bitter. The email wasn't a great thing to do if you don't want to alienate your husband until you figure out what to do.

No harm in seeking out legal help now to find out what both of you can and cannot do.

[Catsmine]

May I suggest printing out the e-mails for the lawyer? Evidence broadens your choice of options.

[Cat1864]

So he is a resident but not a citizen. This is making me wonder if he is using you to get his citizenship and that his expectations in the marriage were not the same as yours:

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-...ty-439629.html

Definitely talk to a lawyer about your options. Fully dissolving this relationship is probably going to be more complicated than it first appears.

[JudyKayTee]

I never understand the anger (and the email) directed toward the other woman. She didn't betray you. She took no vows with you. He did.

You need to speak with an Attorney - as everyone has said, for various reasons.

[Devorameira]

It's really obvious that he's been using you, so go see a lawyer ASAP. The lawyer should be able to protect your assets.

You deserve better and the only way you're going to get to the better is to dump him.