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Fabianorlando · Apr 30, 2010, 11:32 PM

Well my ex girlfriend had sex with her best friend in the showers. I don't know how I should react because we had a agreement she wouldn't do anything with guys. And she ed her friend in the shower. I feel so used and betrayed. My whole world is coming down and I haven't really found anything else to do to help me cheer up. I love her more than life itself I would forgive her but I don't think I can be with her anytime soon. I know she's single now but it hurts so much what should I do?

CarrotTalker · Apr 30, 2010, 11:53 PM

I am confused, she's your ex. Why does it matter what she does?

I can understand it hurts, but why are you finding out about this type of thing from her?

Alty · Apr 30, 2010, 11:59 PM

Why would she agree not to "do anything" with guys? She's your ex, she can see who she wants, do what she wants. You're no longer her concern and she shouldn't be yours.

It's time to move on, go to no contact, which includes not seeking out info about her.

Gemini54 · May 1, 2010, 12:11 AM

I don't really get it. She's your EX.

Why did you have an agreement that she wouldn't do anything with guys? (Are you both girls?)

Furthermore, why did she tell you about the shower shag - can't she keep these sorts of things to herself?

If you're both single and you don't think you can be with her anytime soon - why the betrayal and angst?

I know I'm asking too many questions, but it just doesn't make any sense at all to me.

slapshot_oi · May 1, 2010, 12:34 AM

Sounds like this may have been your first serious relationship.

Rules to live by:
1) Never ask who she's been with or try to get any information on her because it's only going to hurt. You'll start losing hair from the stress it will cause. Ignorance is bliss.
2) Stop talking to her completely. This is the hardest thing to do and the least obvious (well, it was to me) solution to moving on.

If you can follow these two rules, the pain will reduce and you'll eventually get over her. Keep your chin up; you live and you learn.

talaniman · May 1, 2010, 07:55 AM

Its none of your business as she is an ex, and you should really be getting over her, not making rules of conduct in hopes of getting her back.

Why did you break up, and how long were you together? Who dumped who?

amicon · May 1, 2010, 08:14 AM

As she is your ex,you can't expect to have a say in what she does or doesn't do.

Time to heal and move on.

Devorameira · May 1, 2010, 12:37 PM

She's your EX... that means she's out of your control.

She obviously wasn't worrying about you when she was having sex, so quit thinking about her and truly move on.

Romefalls19 · May 3, 2010, 12:47 PM

She's an ex, she can stand up or lay down with anyone she pleases. She made that "agreement" because she was hoping it would make you hurt less but in fact it hurts more. I've been there. My ex tried to make me make the agreement but I knew I couldn't keep it.

Stop worrying about her, move on.

hheath541 · May 3, 2010, 12:59 PM

So, she was supposed to do what? Not date or do anything with anyone until YOU were ready for HER to move on?

Hate to break it to you, but life doesn't work that way. You don't get to dictate what, or who, she does. She moved on. It's your turn.

Now, I know it hurts when as ex moves on before you. There's nothing you can do about it, though. All you can do is realize that you're not together anymore and it's time to stop checking up on her.

russelpeters · Nov 18, 2011, 01:07 AM

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