[Shadam23]

I recently reconcilied with my husband and we have been off and on for about 5 years into our marriage. I try my best to communicate with him. I try and have the patience enough to listen to what he says but most of the time it amounts to nothing done! I always feel like I'm talking to a brick wall! We plan so many things but after all has been said... "no action is takin!"
I've kicked him out three or four times before and now I'm sort of regreting taking him back again, we now have three children together and I always try to stay positive but even that doesn't seem to help. He has no respect for anyone and is still selfish! His toys come before his own family , we've even been to councilling, I'm ready to give it all up! I wanted to go back to school so we could get some better income to take care of our family and have even had advice from my parents (which I'm not quite sure is very useful as sometimes I think it makes things worse!) I think that if we broke up long time ago I would've graduated from University long time ago, and that I would be quite happy on my own, although I do agree that it would effect my children, that is the whole reason why I am ready and willing to try again and even if I am doing something wrong that's fine, I am always open to being wrong and trying to make them right so my family can be happy!Some advice would be great!

[rosemcs]

I read your previous post about going back to school too. We have a lot in common in regards to children, a sick child, school, and the brick wall. My solution was to go to online school... did you say you are going into nursing? You can get a B.A. online and worry about the clinical when the time comes.

Secondly, forget about talking to the dude and letting it bother you. Get invested into your studies--online being the best with a sick child. Make sure it is approved by licensing. Then, get yourself a therapist, and learn to live on your own, even if you are living with him. When you establish that you can be independent with your schooling, therapist, and a hobby, then you won't stress out as much. Just resolve yourself to the fact that he is not going to change and make yourself happy so that your kids will be happy.

P.S. I'll be happy to have a pen pal with someone who also has a child that has practically lived in the hospital... maybe we can stay in touch with private messages.