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    confused2010 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 8, 2010, 06:34 PM
    My boyfriend and I don't have sex
    Ive been with my boyfriend for almost a year. At first it seemed like we where having a normal sexual relationship, as time went by I noticed that I was doing all the work in bed. Even when he would try to get me in the mood it was like he thought that just touching me down there was some kind of on/off button to arouse me. No kissing or massage oor little sexy whispers. Through the months it has gotten less and less. The last time we had sex was new years, but I really don't feel like I want to have sex anymore, I am so turned off And I think he is waiting on me to make the first move! I like him but I feel there never really was any passion, and I don't feel I can be happy in a relationship like this, but its so hard to leave him cause he is such a good person!
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    Feb 8, 2010, 06:40 PM

    Have the two of you talked about it as a fun thing when not in bed or checked out sex guides (612.6) from the library? Have you ever done the sexy whisper to HIM and guided his hand and moved it around? Have you ever shown him how you want him to touch you -- "Like this ooooooooooooooo."
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    Feb 8, 2010, 06:56 PM

    I have, and Ive done things to him all the time that Im %100 sure he LOVES... But I don't get anything in return, and Im just bored and turned off! He seems to be kind of lazy I think. Litteraly I do everything... Im always on top, or going down, and I don't get it back
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    Feb 8, 2010, 08:05 PM

    Sounds like your mind is made up to leave. Why are you asking us anything? There is no need to stay because he is "a good person." If the passion isn't there... it's over... period.
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    Feb 8, 2010, 08:21 PM

    Move out and move on. You have run this relationship as long as both of you really want.
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    Feb 9, 2010, 06:38 AM

    You have to face the fact not every guy will be good in bed... or even really want to try to be.

    Same with women.

    You see a real big problem here... a leopard can't change its spots... and most people don't change their ways unless they really want to. You can't make them do it.
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    Feb 10, 2010, 04:42 PM

    I would talk to him about how this is a huge issue to you & if he cares not to change then its highly unlikely he will ever try to do more in turning up the heat with you... being intimate with someone has a lot to do with connecting with your partner.

    You definitely deserve to feel wanted and appealing in a relationship I wouldn't settle...
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