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    jon 1966 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jan 20, 2010, 06:25 PM
    Don't want to leave.mother of my kids wants me to leave.
    I love them all so much,but she says I have to go.if I stay around she gets angry and screams.im a good dad but my head and heart is all over the place,don't know what to do,she4 won't talk about it.
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    Jan 20, 2010, 06:34 PM

    Well I think more information would be helpful to get a better grasp of what is going on in your relationship.

    But my initial reaction is that if she is not willing to talk about it then you need to go, if only until the dust settles.

    Your kids don't need to be around fighting.

    By all means that does not mean walk off into the sunset never to be seen again, sometimes we all just need some time to cool off.

    In the heat of the moment we can say things we don't mean and make situations worse.

    Tell her calmly that you will go, but that you really feel you need more discussion at a later date.

    Finally, make sure your kids know that you aren't going anywhere for good.
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    Jan 20, 2010, 06:36 PM

    Can you please fill in somemore details?

    Why does she want you to leave?
    How long have you been together?
    How many kids/age?

    Have the two of you tried conseling?
    IS that an option?
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    Jan 20, 2010, 09:36 PM

    Yes, more info is needed but I must tell you that if she doesn't want to work out whatever there is that needs to be work out then there is nothing you can do. A relationship takes two for it to work not one.

    Now, I understand you love your kids and will miss living with them but know as a father you have rights too just in case she try to use them as a pawn. This is why we have courts and she might take you for child support>>just a thought. Hope you come back with more info.
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    Jan 21, 2010, 06:32 AM

    I need to know a little bit more information in order to give you a better response
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    Jan 23, 2010, 01:22 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by neverme View Post
    Well I think more information would be helpful to get a better grasp of what is going on in your relationship.

    But my initial reaction is that if she is not willing to talk about it then you need to go, if only until the dust settles.

    Your kids don't need to be around fighting.

    By all means that does not mean walk off into the sunset never to be seen again, sometimes we all just need some time to cool off.

    In the heat of the moment we can say things we don't mean and make situations worse.

    Tell her calmly that you will go, but that you really feel you need more discussion at a later date.

    Finally, make sure your kids know that you aren't going anywhere for good.
    I agree. A little information as to what resulted in mom's decision would be more helpful in answering your question.

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