[walkers1985]

Hi there is a girl I work with who I really like I'm 24 and she's 26 we have known each other and been friends for about 2 years now I have liked her for a long time but was unsure how she felt as was getting very open to interpretation comments and a lot of flirting. I recently gave in and told her how I felt about her and she said that she liked me too unfortunately she has a boyfriend she has been seeing for around 11 years and they own a place together although they have been rocky for a while now she says she wants to see whether things improve with him and that she doesn't know me well enough to be with me. Since I told her we have hugged a few times and come close to kissing on more than one occasion.
Am now stuck on what to do next as I don't want to pressurise her into anything but every time we are together we both have to struggle to stop things from happening. Should I wait for her to come around and see me as the better option or for something to happen? Or should I just try to move on?
I am not very experienced with these kind of problems as I have recently got divorced from a girl I was with since I was 16 so any advice would be appreciated.

[amicon]

She is with someone else and it doesn't matter if their relationship is rocky-you step away.

[Romefalls19]

She's got a boyfriend, that's a no fly zone there. Abort abort abort

[redhed35]

I sure there are plenty of women out there who are single...

Perhaps this women likes the flirtation,and the attention,however that's all it is,she's very much attached.. your single,go be single and date and enjoy your freedom,chasing this women is chasing trouble.

[I wish]

She already knows how you feel. The ball is on her side of the court. If she wants something to happen, she will have to break up with her boyfriend to be with you. But you can't force her or put pressure on her to do that.

As for you, she has a boyfriend, so it's time for you to back away and leave her alone. You don't want to be a girlfriend stealer and you don't want to be the guy that she cheats with.

[LivingtheLifeinFLA]

If she really wants you she will start spending more time with you and you will know it. For now, you need to back off, stay friendly, maybe start dating others to get your mind off her. This may cause 2 things, 1) help you move past her, and 2) maybe get her to jump ship to you.

[talaniman]

Why complicate the place you work trying to get someone who already has someone else? Move on guy, and get someone who won't cheat. That's the only way you get her, is for her to cheat.

[valkman98]

People want what they can't have, she might be getting the missing something from you that is lacking in her relationship. Just a thought but by all means stay away from her in that way. Lots'o pain if you don't.

[walkers1985]

Thanks for all the advice guys not what I wanted to hear but probably what I needed to hear.