[thedagger]

I (24) live in Chicago and she lives (23) in Houston and we have found time to meet twice in the last year or so. She is a long time crush of mine and I told her that I loved her. She said she is afraid of relationships and would like to remain best friends. I accepted that but a few days later my emotions got the better of me and I said that "it's hard for me to be talking to you so much knowing that you don't have any feelings for me" and I told her that it would be better for us to be talking less to each other. She agreed. However, I could not live up to my words as I missed her dearly so I called her after three days and apologized for being selfish in friendship. We talked for a long time that night and I was really happy.
The next day, I tried calling her and she did not answer. Now it's been two weeks since, we have not talked even once. I have called her multiple times every day and she has never answered. I have also sent her e-mails and instant messages during this time and have gotten no replies. I know she is fine because my common friends have seen her online.
I am trying to find reasons for why she has stopped talking to me completely in such an abrupt manner. There could be really only be two reasons. First, being that she does not want me closer to her because she is afraid that my feelings for her would again grow over time and she neither does not want to hurt me or feel guilty anymore. Second, (just maybe) she heard something false and bad about me from a third person that has completely led her to see me in a different light.
I really miss her, more as a friend than anything else and I am desperate to speak to her. At the same time, I also want to give her the space and not bother her too much. I do not want our friendship to end like this in such a sour note when we used to talk about being there for each other in the bleakest of times. I want to talk to her and get things cleared but I want to do it in the best possible right way. I could ask one of my close friends to ask her all the questions that are tormenting my mind, when they see her online. But I think that’s not the way to go and I need to talk to her myself.
What’s the best possible way for me to get her talking to me? (Please do not tell me to give up and get a life because that’s not an option for me right now)

[valkman98]

Hey, let her have the time,she might talk. I think you scared her and knowing how you feel about her other than friends she maybe keeping from hurting you . I know you miss the friendship but after crossing the line she doenst want to talk. Give it time.

[talaniman]

You are pushing to hard for something she doesn't want to give you. Friendship cannot be forced, it must be natural, and leaving her alone IS your best option. You have to accept her feelings, and deal with your own.

[Gemini54]

Leave her alone for a while. You probably scared the bejesus out of her coming on all intense.

You can't make her or get her to do anything. Stop with the emails, texts, IM's, etc, etc.

She probably thinks you're stalking her. Respect the fact that she doesn't want to communicate with you and back off.

The more you push for answers the more she will resist. Exercise some restraint and self control - she will respect you far more for that!

[amicon]

If she wanted to talk to you, she would take your calls. You need to back off, leave her be and stop all communication.
I agree with Gemini, she probably thinks you're stalking her.

[thedagger]

Thanks guys! I will just play the waiting game now.

[amicon]

Don't see it as a game-move on with your life and be happy being you.