[DJ 'H']

I am finding it so hard to get back into the dating game. Men get to know me and like me but as soon as I mention my daughter they seem to run a mile, any suggestions?. its starting to knock my confidence a bit xx

[Imabadman]

What is your age? Can you tell us a little more about yourself and situation?

[Curlyben]

What is your age? Can you tell us a little more about yourself and situation?

Old enough to know better and young enough not to care ;)

[DJ 'H']

Cheers Ben, you remember me well :D, I am 25yrs Imabadman xx

[I wish]

I'm going with the cliché line: "You just haven't met the right person yet".

Don't let it get you down, just keep getting to know more people!

[Alty]

I am finding it so hard to get back into the dating game. Men get to know me and like me but as soon as I mention my daughter they seem to run a mile, any suggestions?!....its starting to knock my confidence a bit xx

This is a tough one. Sadly I don't think there is a clear cut answer.

I think Iwish is right, you haven't met the right guy yet.

Don't let it get you down, keep going out there, have fun and see what happens. :)

[Imabadman]

I'm sorry if my age question was an issue. No harm meant. I tought if you were say 16-19 and had 3-6 kids there could be an issue there.

But at 25 and one daughter I'm guessing 2-3 years old? I can't understand why that would be an issue for any man 25 yrs. Or older... I guess just scared of the instant family or immature.

[DJ 'H']

No no its fine, I just forgot I have not been on here for a while, everyone used to just know what was going on in my life, Ben knows lol. My daughter is nearly 3yrs and I have been single for that duration, sort of concentrating on my daughter. I do find it hard to understand why isla (my daughter) is such an issue when a guy likes me for me, Isla is just a mini version of me lol. I will carry on enjoying life and making the most of what I have... just wonder sometimes if I meant to be on my own or if my independence is intimidating to Men?

[talaniman]

Hi DJ, long time it seems. You already know what I think, just because the guys you meet aren't keepers, there are many more frogs yet to kiss, so pucker up buttercup, and keep on kissing them frogs.

That's exactly how I got my wife.

Talaniman Rule- One kiss per frog is more than enough.

Talaniman Rule- When kissing a lot of frogs, carry an extra chap stick, just in case.

[DJ 'H']

Quote by talaniman
Hi DJ, long time it seems. You already know what I think, just because the guys you meet aren't keepers, there are many more frogs yet to kiss, so pucker up buttercup, and keep on kissing them frogs.

Thats exactly how I got my wife.

Hey Talaniman, it has been a while, but i am starting to remember why I loved this site and you guys so much, you always have the right advice and cheer me up no end. I best get ready to kiss many frogs lol :)

[mumtosix]

I was a single mum aged 26 with 3young children and a psycho ex husband so I thought my destiny was to stay single forever.
I met my current partner on line we became friends first and well 6 months later we met and have been together for 2.5 years now , he treats my children as his own.

I think you need to build upon yourself confidence first the saying " If you do not love yourself how can anyone else love you" rings true. Forget about men and concentrate on you and your daughter.
The right guy will come along when you least expect it , don't go looking as you will never find. Let him come and find you.

Get out and socialize more , go and do some fun things.

And any guy who runs at the mention of the word daughter should keep running and you should never think oh no - think thank god - your daughter is no 1 in your life and whoever special comes into your life with understand and respect that.
Those that can't are not worth your time!
Good Luck x

[DJ 'H']

You are so right and I appreciate you words mumtosix, but I get out loads and socialise with my friends all the time, I DJ lots which I absolutely love and have stared up my own avon bsiness so I am always busy busy busy lol (I am lucky to have a suppotive family) I have not been looking for a man directly and just meeting new people. At one point I did meet someone but he got cold feet after a week without a proper explanation. I am just bustling around being me with no one taking interest beyound friendship or just bailing before we even get started xx

[mumtosix]

I remember the same feelings and yes its horrid , once the kids are tucked up in bed and you are sat alone the place suddenly becomes very lonely indeed and you miss that special time to cuddle up and adult time with someone special.

But is it not better to be introducing someone who you know 99% is going to be a stable and regular person in your life rather than just date any guy because you are lonely?

Have you thought about joining a dating site? Not sure if I would but I have friends who met partners threw them and they are happy - perhaps Mr Right lives right next door and your too busy to even notice ha joking aside I wish you and your daughter all the luck in the world and good on you - Working with kids while you're a single mum is hard going!

[I wish]

Forgive me for being blunt, but some men just aren't ready to commit to you because of the baggage that you come with.

The fact that you have a daughter means that you have certain priorities and responsibilities that will come before your significant other. There's also the matter of your daughter's father who will always be connected to her.

Like I said earlier, you just haven't met the right type of guys who aren't bothered by these aspects. Just keep socializing and meeting new people! Keep your head up!

I would like to suggest, maybe that you get to know single men who also have a child(ren). I'm not saying that you will find Mr. Right, but at least you will have common priorities and responsibilities; thus, you will be able to understand each other more easily.

[Imabadman]

Well madam, I find you to be well spoken, intelligent, and honest. Perhaps if I lived in Wiltshire you'd do the honor of courting me.

As T-Man said... keep kissing frogs, one has to be a prince.

[Alty]

Well madam, I find you to be well spoken, intelligent, and honest. Perhaps if I lived in Wiltshire you'd do the honor of courting me.

As T-Man said... keep kissing frogs, one has to be a prince.

There are things called planes that can take you to Wiltshire. :cool:

Just saying. ;)

[amicon]

Hi DJ nice to get to know you. Love your daughters name-as for meeting someone- it seems to happen when to me when I'm not looking for someone if you know what I mean?
So far they ve been mostly frogs :( but at least I get a chapstick discount in Boots!:-)

[Alty]

I'm the perfect example of meeting someone when you least expect it.

I am the poster child for failed relationships. One after the other. It was getting pretty bad. Of course, I was a teen, that may have had something to do with it. ;)

I had just broken up with a long time boyfriend. The poor guy made a mistake, he gave me a ring and asked me to marry him. I was 19, not ready, didn't love him, heck, at times I didn't even like him. Of course I said yes.

A day or two later I realized that I wasn't being honest with him. I was being even less honest with myself. I asked to meet him and I broke up with him. Two days after Valentines.

Stop booing, there's no good time. :(

So I decided to stay single for a while, play the field, good old days here I come. Nope, no commitment for me, it was too hard.

My friend invited me to a bar for another friends birthday.

There was a guy there that was flirting with everyone. Oooh, challenge. Let's see if I can get his attention focused on me. Ya, I was a bit of a b*t*h back then. ;)

I ended up taking him home, dropping him off, leaving and planning to forget about him. No, I didn't sleep with him, that was a first for me.

I had given him my number though, and he called the next night.

Long story short, that was 19 years ago, and that's how long we've been together. We've been married for 14 of those years and we have two great kids together.

The little bugger snuck up on me when I wasn't looking. ;)

[amicon]

Well there you go! Does he have a single no baggage older brother?

[Alty]

Well there you go! Does he have a single no baggage older brother?

LOL, no, only a bitter, 17 year older, really nasty sister.

Oops... was that out loud? :eek: