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dream11207 · Nov 12, 2009, 02:00 PM

Yesss it is red

redhed35 · Nov 12, 2009, 02:08 PM

Oh my...

Think about all the time your wasting on this guy... think about all the great guys who are out there,and you can't even see past this guy... he is not treating you right... but you have this idea that you and he are meant for great things... but he is not buying it.

You deserve to be treated better,do you not think so?

Of all the good qualities you see in him,the one thing that is missing is he does not feel the same way for you,if he did you would not need to ask.

dream11207 · Nov 12, 2009, 02:10 PM

I have started dating other guys but he is def still on my mind and it doesn't help that he's still reaching out to me...

I've never made the mistake of going over to his place late night or even responding when he acts inappropriate.

He's immature is what it comes down to

redhed35 · Nov 12, 2009, 02:24 PM

He's not reaching out to you,he's keeping the shag in the bag!.

If its chemistry or lust that's bringing you back or keeping him on your mind,the only way to get over him and get him off your mind is no contact.. at all.. no Facebook,emails,text,nothing!

If he wanted you as his girlfriend,it would be a done deal by now,but he's not giving up his single status.

He most likely does like you,he would not keep coming back if he didn't,but the bottom line is,your good enough for the occasional shag and night out,but not girlfriend material for him..

If HE thought you were all that,he would want you for himself...

You are better.. you deserve a better guy.. kick him to the curb.

dream11207 · Nov 12, 2009, 02:30 PM

Thanks for the feedback I really appreciate it! I don't think it's that he doesn't want ME for a relationship I just think he doesn't want a relationship... I think if he did want one it would be with me. He's very immature and yes I prob should cut off contact with him ughhhh

redhed35 · Nov 12, 2009, 02:34 PM

Really,you seem to have a good understanding of what's going on with him,its just that he's so damn attractive! Yes ? No?

Pull away completely from him,no contact,get on with your life,date and be happy... if /when he matures maybe he will call,if your both single,maybe then things will work out... but for now,for you,move on and don't look back.

redhed35 · Nov 12, 2009, 02:36 PM

I just wanted to add,if you are happy with the way things are,and have no expectations of a relationship with him,maybe it suits you both for now...

But if its wreaking your head,move on.

Edit: I just back tracked on about 8 posts!

To the op...

At the end of the day its up too you,and your decision.

dream11207 · Nov 12, 2009, 02:38 PM

That's the best thing I've heard red!! And no he's NOT particularly that attractive... hes open minded, cute and intelligent and that's rare to find in a conservative southern state like where I'm from... I actually like him for who he is and not superficial reasons - if I liked him solely based on looks I would have been over him a long time, been there

redhed35 · Nov 12, 2009, 02:41 PM

Opened minded,cute and intelligent IS attractive!

As I said,you're an adult,and its your decision...

But protect your own heart and head first.

dream11207 · Nov 12, 2009, 02:45 PM

Yeah I think for the first time I'm just going to be straight forward and say soemthing like look I thought something different at first but now its just not working please stop contacting me... what do you think of that red?

redhed35 · Nov 12, 2009, 02:50 PM

I think its good...

At least he will know why your not replying and know where he and you stand.

Don't make it a long conversation,your informing him,not asking him.

2ndTime · Nov 15, 2009, 04:36 PM

dream11207, that's the attitude. I think you'll be fine on your own now.