[If_Forever]

My BF and I have been together for 2 years now. I'm 28 - he is 27. He never wants to have sex and it now going on week 5/6 since the last time. We did try about 3 weeks ago but he couldn' get aroused. It is so fustrating and he has made jokes/comments about need viagra. But he would never go to the dr as he is in the military. Another contributing factor could be his drinking. He likes to drink diet coke and malibu rum daily and all day Sunday during football. He is a sports fanantic and watches football all day Sunday from am to 11pm.

It is just fustrating and we have talked about this numerous times. I don't want to nag him and go through phases where I won't say anything. We just went on a nice weekend vacation and nothing happened.

I don't know what to think. He is very affectionate with me always hugging me and kissing me. He makes promises to make love with me but it never happens. By the time we go to bed he is always "too tired" as he says. He never wants to have sex during the morning or day. He seems more interested in listening to his music, drinking, watching ESPN or checking sports stuff on the internet.

I've tried spicing things up by wearing lingerie, but don't do it all the time. There have been times I have dressed up and he is "not in the mood" so it is hard to take the effort and not knowing if I will be rejected. Anyhow, I know he loves me so that is not the issue - it is just he is lacking sex drive. I don't know what to do from here...

[phillysteakandcheese]

He is probably embarrassed and frustrated with his ED. There is no quick fix... He needs to face this problem, acknowledge it, and work through it. He needs to go to see his doctor, and perhaps for counselling as well.

It is commendable that you are so patient and willing to work through this with him, however he also needs to also take responsibility for helping himself.

[educatedhorse_2005]

Keep being patient with him.
Sooner or later he will go and get the problem fixed.