[lincolna1712]

I think I don't love my husband anymore, when I marry him he already had a kid plus a was pregnant. My mom told me that I didn't have to marry him but I did anyway. I think it was the biggest mistake I ever mad. We are just fighting about anything, I can take it anymore. He didn't have anything when I met him, no car, apartment he was living with his mom, I mean nothing he was making good money. Because he is a bartender, when we got marry I told him that I want to get a house, we got a house and we have a good car. But everything is going down by the second, his other baby mama keeps getting in our way I think there is the problem. NOW I don't know if I should leave and leave everything that fought for to have. Or to stay and keep fighting. We have some good times some time but it just goes away so fast. I don't understand.


Please let me know what you think!!

[justcurious55]

What efforts have been made between the two of you to work things out? Is this a rough patch that you guys are going through or have you felt this way for a long time?

[mudweiser]

If you feel it's over and really don't want to fight for it then I say let it go. Leave and be happy.

Fighting "for love" sometimes isn't enough, sometimes a marriage is just over.

My suggestion, from the sounds of it, is that it's over- speak to a lawyer and see if you are able to get an annulment, if not a divorce.

Good luck.

Do what makes you happy. Most importantly, do what makes your child live an a happy, healthy environment.

Sarah

[JoeCanada76]

What exactly are the wedding vows.

There does not sound to me any kind of abuse.

Ups and Downs. That is part of a marriage. There are certain steps you need to take before calling it quits.

Divorce these days, people divorce when things get too hard.

Sounds like your very materialistic. What does it matter what he had or did not have?

Is there any kind of decent communication? You need to set up counseling for yourself by yourself and also set up marriage counseling.

See how it goes. Things are not always rosy, things are not perfect and nothing is fairy tale. Saying that though, you need to realize that these things happen and there are steps to take to learn and grow.

It might be salvageable but many marriages suffer because of financial hardship but if love is more important between you too, no matter what is happening you both will find ways to work through it.

It takes sometimes somebody that is not close to you guys to help guide you both along on how to improve things.

Best of luck.

Joe

[ankushraina]

It's a matter of life time so give a fair chance to your relationship... just talk to your hubby & your mother in law straightly... that both of you are on the verge of breaking this relationship which is definitely not good for u & your kids also... be calm & patient listen to each other & make some resolutions... all the best

[talaniman]

I think you're a quitter because things are hard. If its worth having, do the work it takes to keep it.