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snippy07 · Sep 25, 2009, 08:51 AM

Thanks guys I agree, I actually just went on a date lastnight with this other girl. Had a great time, but she just got out of a 8month relationship 3 weeks ago. She said she likes me and that I'm very sweet, but she wants to stay single right now because she likes it. But she said she thinks we have a good chance of dating in the future. Not sure why she likes being single, is it because she needs more time to move on?

I feel like I have moved on from my 13 month relationship and it's only been like 10 days or something... Finding out she cheated on me helped me to move on though because that made me realize the kind of person she is.

talaniman · Sep 25, 2009, 09:00 AM

I think she just likes her freedom and the idea of having fun and meeting people and she wants her options open. That's fine and healthy, as there should be no hurry to be in an exclusive relationship, plus it's way to soon for that for you I think.

Going from a failed relationship to a new one is a disaster as too much, to soon, crash and burn.

Dating is all about having fun getting to know some one, not rushing into something with a stranger, just to say you have someone. Relax, and enjoy the freedom, the options, and opportunities of being single.

amicon · Sep 25, 2009, 09:03 AM

Just enjoy dating and being single for some time. You still need to truly get over your ex before you get involved with someone else.

Cat1864 · Sep 25, 2009, 09:13 AM

There is no magic time-frame for healing from a break-up.

Give yourself some more time before even contemplating another full relationship. If you haven't worked through the hurt and pain, it could end up making you insecure in your next relationship.

snippy07 · Sep 25, 2009, 09:24 AM

Originally Posted by talaniman

I think she just likes her freedom and the idea of having fun and meeting people and she wants her options open. Thats fine and healthy, as there should be no hurry to be in an exclusive relationship, plus it's way to soon for that for you I think.

Going from a failed relationship to a new one is a disaster as to much, to soon, crash and burn.

Dating is all about having fun getting to know some one, not rushing into something with a stranger, just to say you have someone. Relax, and enjoy the freedom, the options, and opportunities of being single.

She's not a stranger, I work with her and we've talked when we were both in relationships. But I get where you are going with this.. so I won't rush it. She does want to see me again today, so I probably will.

Before I get a lecture on not dating a co-worker. We only work together for like a hour tops and only like one day a week. She also works at other stores so if anything bad did happen, she would probably just work at those other stores and not mine. :)

Thanks everybody for the advice. :D

Cat1864 · Sep 25, 2009, 10:55 AM

Originally Posted by snippy07

She's not a stranger, I work with her and we've talked when we were both in relationships. But i get where you are going with this.. so i won't rush it. She does want to see me again today, so I probably will.

Before i get a lecture on not dating a co-worker. We only work together for like a hour tops and only like one day a week. She also works at other stores so if anything bad did happen, she would probably just work at those other stores and not mine. :)

Thanks everybody for the advice. :D

There is nothing wrong for two people who are friends to go out together to just blow steam and have fun. Companionship can be a wonderful thing. Even more important than romance at times.

Look at it not as getting into a new 'romantic' relationship. Look at it as two friends sharing a good time.

snippy07 · Sep 25, 2009, 11:01 AM

Originally Posted by Cat1864

There is nothing wrong for two people who are friends to go out together to just blow steam and have fun. Companionship can be a wonderful thing. Even more important than romance at times.

Look at it not as getting into a new 'romantic' relationship. Look at it as two friends sharing a good time.

I agree, but I would eventually like to get with her.

The thing I don't want is the same thing that happened 2 years ago I liked this girl a lot and we were just friends for like 2-3 months. We became best friends and still are. When I finally asked her out she said she would love to but she doesn't want to ruin our friendship... so we never did date. I know she liked me too because she had told me a month before I asked her and told her friends who would tell me.

So I don't want the same thing to happen with this girl. I mean I would love to be friends if that is all I could get. But I want to give it a shot and date her.

talaniman · Sep 25, 2009, 11:55 AM

I think all us guys would love to get with a lot of females we see, and meet, given we are single, and free (well, I was at one time), but the reality is females have other ideas about giving us what we want, and when we want it, and how we want it.

Not all of them feel the way you want them to. Just something to deal with. Thank God, there are so many of them. So don't get to hung up on one that doesn't want what you want.

superchris · Mar 9, 2012, 03:52 AM

I'm going through the same thing with my girlfriend. She says she love very much. She also feels that she isn't good enough for me. My long distance relationship is really tough. I feel that she is worth it. She says she doesn't want to break up, but when I initiated it, she calls me back and tells me she didn't want that. She told me it was about her. She didn't feel that she could treat me better than I have treated her. She is in her junior year of college and feel that she has to do things on her own. Now we back together and we are spending spring break together.