She tells him that she loves him (not too uncomfortable with that, tolerable) but she says how she wishes that she could go on tour with him but can't. How she had a vivid sexual dream about him and in another post said she has more respect for Him than me.
Hmmm. This is ringing alarm bells for me and clearly it is for you too, otherwise you wouldn't be posting on this site. Someone in a committed relationship does not behave like this, because essentially it's a betrayal of trust.
I'm assuming you will have spoken with her by now, and if she is refusing to change then I would say that the relationship is not based on solid ground. The seeds of discontent are there already, on her part, and you may need to make a hard decision.
I think the snooping thing is irrelevant - what's important is that fundamentally you don't trust her and she's certainly not behaving in a way that demonstrates any loyalty or repect for you.