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    Lynne Sheffield Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jun 1, 2009, 06:42 AM
    Seating of ex-husband's wife's family at wedding
    My son is getting married soon. His father and I have been divorced for several years. He married the woman he was having an affair with when I was pregnant with my son and they have now been married for several years. She has been the step mother to my son and her family has been involved in my son's life since he was born. My son has a good relationship with his step mother and her family. His father will be his best man. What is the proper seating for the step mother and her parents at the wedding? The step mother says her parents will sit with her husband's parents. The bride does not want to offend my son's father and his wife and just wants everything to go smoothly. My son will not stand up to his father so we hope proper etiquitte can help us. Thank you.
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    Jun 3, 2009, 04:59 PM
    If your ex husband is in the bridal party (best man) then he and his wife should be seated at the head table with the rest of the bridal party. And yes, her parents should sit with your husband's parents.
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    Jun 20, 2009, 07:27 PM

    I would suggest that your ex-husband should either sit with the bridal party, or head his own table (with his siblings, parents and or close friends and of course, his current wife). If he elects to sit with the bridal party, his wife would host a table for these same people. You would have your table, the brides parents would have their table, and you mix the rest of the guests as you like to facilitate a good mix and conversation.
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    Nov 6, 2009, 11:48 AM

    The proper place is with the Bridal party as suggested above.
    The other thing to consider is that we are not all bound by traditional rules. Just use them as suggestion. An option would be to have their own table as you do yours and the bridal party only seat with those directly in the party.
    This is ultimately up to those being married. Know that he may not "stand up" against you any more than he will them. He may say he agrees with you to keep peace. There is no way to know his true intentions besides through his actions.
    This is a joyous and stressful time for them. Do your best to put your feelings aside. This will keep you in their best graces.
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    Nov 6, 2009, 01:50 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by EliseLynn View Post
    The proper place is with the Bridal party as suggested above.
    The other thing to consider is that we are not all bound by traditional rules. Just use them as suggestion. An option would be to have their own table as you do yours and the bridal party only seat with those directly in the party.
    This is ultimately up to those being married. Know that he may not "stand up" against you any more than he will them. He may say he agrees with you to keep peace. There is no way to know his true intentions besides through his actions.
    This is a joyous and stressful time for them. Do your best to put your feelings aside. This will keep you in their best graces.


    This is a question from June and the OP has not been back. Please keep on eye on the dates.

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