[-PaRAsiTE-]

I love my cousin but I don't know if she does or not. Can you help me? What should I do?

[talaniman]

Your cousins, you should love each other, what's the problem?

[TrueFaith]

Love as in want to make love to her love?

Well how old are you? Do you live together is she your Cousin or 2nd?


MOre details would be great


IF you are in love with your cousin, then its not the most normal of loves, but it happens, and many people back in the old times use to marrie there cousins.

Even more so in british royal family.

If you love her.. ask her talk to her about your feelings. See what she says. But be read to be turned down. As most family members just look at otheres as... family.

All the best

[-PaRAsiTE-]

Thanks for your advices, I apologize that I didn't answer you sooner just because of my exams. Well I can't say how old are we because, -excuse me-, I think you would laugh at us. My real problem is that I don't know If I should tell this to anyone else in my family or not? Is it good to show it or not? Will they laugh at me or not?
I'm a male. ( I think it will be better to say this )> We both are 16 years old. Fortunately, I've found out that she has this feeling too.:)

[-PaRAsiTE-]

By the way, We are from Iran. We don't live together, But we live in the same city and her house is only two blocks away from our house.

[-PaRAsiTE-]

Thanks for your advices, I apologize that I didn't answer you sooner just because of my exams. Well I can't say how old are we because, -excuse me-, I think you would laugh at us. My real problem is that I don't know If I should tell this to anyone else in my family or not? Is it good to show it or not? Will they laugh at me or not?
I'm a male. ( I think it will be better to say this )> We both are 16 years old. Fortunately, I've found out that she has this feeling too.:)

[Nestorian]

Thanks for your advices, I apologize that I didn't answer you sooner just because of my exams. well I can't say how old are we because, -excuse me-, I think you would laugh at us. My real problem is that I don't know If I should tell this to anyone else in my family or not? Is it good to show it or not? Will they laugh at me or not?
I'm a male. ( I think it will be better to say this )> We both are 16 years old. Fortunately, I've found out that she has this feeling too.:)

As said before, it happens. You'd be well advised to be mindful that the consequences will most likely leave to extream opposition, disproval, and many hard times.

First off, you wouldn't really be advised to "mate" as you would put your child at high risk for many genetic/biological problems. So if you did choose to have a child with her, then you'd be putting some one else through a lot of pain for your gain/benafit.

Second, you'd be issolating yourself from many people. Family, friends, and many others.

Third, I think it's illegal to marry a cousin. Except in some places.

See you are severely limiting yourself, and if you broke up or split, then what? Keep it all a secret? Hiding who you are to spare yourself the shame?

There are many women, and if you are 16, your hormones are still changing in big ways. No matter what you say, she is not the only girl for you, because you've not yet met the many women in the world. (Apparently there are more and more women being born and less men due to the many changes in our diet.)

So do what you feel is good for you, but try to look at the reality of your situation before just giving into some fantacy ideal of what it would be like, OK. Take care, and be sure to talk long and seriously with her before getting all wound up.

Peace and kindness.

P.S. How well do you know yourself? Do you love, forgive, respect, know yourself, and can you be yourself?

[Gemini54]

It's actually not illegal to marry a cousin.

In the USA alone, it's legal in 25 states and it's legal in many European countries. Worldwide, it's much more common. Twenty percent of all married couples are cousins. In some Middle Eastern countries, almost half of all marriages are to cousins.

(I got this off the internet - When Cousins Get Married - ABC News)

One of the reasons cousin marriage is taboo, is the assumption they will have kids with birth defects. A study funded by the National Society of Genetic Counselors revealed that some beliefs about cousin marriage were unfounded.

The risks of having a child with a cousin were about "2 [percent] to 3 percent" above the average population's risk for having a child with birth defects or mental retardation.

Clearly the risks are not as bad as people perceive!

You're still young - take it easy, get to know other girls - study and live your life.

If once you're older you both still feel the same, then you can make a considered choice based on having some life experience, meeting other people and having an understanding of the stigma and potential risks that might be involved.

[Balarasara]

It is wrong to love your cousin romanticly,there are plenty of girls to like and I think you should just forget about it.