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swimbod · Sep 17, 2006, 11:56 AM

I'm 16 and now looking to have sex for the first time.I am very nervous though, I worry about lots of things. Things mainly like will it be awkward and is everything fine 'down there' to the girls satisfaction,am I sad for still be a virgin and will she notice that I'm not 'experienced'. I know I should just go for it but my paranoia is holding me back. Any help will be great! Thanks.

J_9 · Sep 17, 2006, 12:06 PM

Let me say that I am PROUD you are still a virgin!! That is very admirable these days!

Are you ready to be a father? Well it is possible no matter what kind of protection you use. You must be ready for the consequences of the action prior to performing the action.

That said, yes, it will be awkward. For you and her both. It will most likely be painful for her if she is still a virgin.

Not only should your paranoia hold you back. But if you are not ready for a lifetime commitment of a child, you should hold back.

phillysteakandcheese · Sep 17, 2006, 01:41 PM

Almost every guy has an "awkward" first time... in one way or another... ;)

Feelings of anticipation, performance, and anxiety are all pretty normal.

One other thing though about how you worded your post - Approaching this activity with the attitude of "I need to measure how well I do" is the wrong mindset. If you are "looking to have sex" as opposed to sharing love with someone you care about, your bound to have a very dissapointing first time.

mcb1 · Oct 4, 2006, 03:19 PM

You don't need to worry,

I remember before I lost my virginity I used to think what if I don't know how to do a certain thing or will she realise that I was a virgin or would I finish too earlyetc..

When it actually happened it was so natural and I think your instincts take over and it was a good experience.

Get to know the girl(or gentleman) and if you feel comfortable with her maybe tell her girls are more sensitive and understanding about things like this, maybe don't go for full blown intercourse straight away maybe go with a bit of stimulation with your partner and get to know each other a bit better first in that department, she proberbly doesn't have any expectations and will appericate you maybe wanting to wait a bit longer.

16 and a virgin that's nothing to be ashamed off!

Mike

Fr_Chuck · Oct 4, 2006, 04:44 PM

Most boys and girls actually wait to 18 or 19 now adays, and most of your friends talking about having sex are doing just that talking.

And it is not uncommom at all for many to actually wait till they are engaged or married to have sex for the first time.

Main issue to remember no birth control is 100 percent effective, and when you have sex you risk the chance of becoming a father and owing child support till that child is 18.

So I would say that there is no need to rush,and that actually having sex at 16 will put you over all in the minority.

It would be sad to fool around too much now only to loose some girl you really care about latter who does not want to be with someone who had fooled around so much in their past.