[simoneaugie]

I have read about Aspergers on line but still have a question. What if the only symptoms are a heated dislike of small talk, a frequent need to be left alone and aversion to crowded places. Does he have Aspergers syndrome?

[tickle]

I have read about Aspergers on line but still have a question. What if the only symptoms are a heated dislike of small talk, a frequent need to be left alone and aversion to crowded places. Does he have Aspergers syndrome?

Hi, simonaugie, parents may see a lot of 'signs and symptoms' of aspergers in young people, because they are such a catch all of copycats. The only way you can know what you suspect is get a referral to a specialist through your doctor and have him tested. Good luck. Your worry may be unfounded, but go the right way to find out.

Tick

[stbmrsd]

Go have him tested and find out

[gavinswife]

I am married to a man with aspergers, but I am no expert. I do know that there are no tests to identify this condition and no cure. It is different with each person and varies widely in degree and severity. Rather it is an assortment of LOTS of behaviors and may include many or just a few. My aspie husband is very high-functioning and successful, but his inability to show empathy or understanding when I am emotional or upset about anything is something that really stands out. It is very difficult to communicate with him without his getting very defensive and short. He has no patience at for small talk that "normal" people do; if what I am saying doesn't affect him (something happened during my day for example) he will abruptly turn the conversation to what DOES interest him. I have learned NOT to expect him to behave in a certain way because I will inevitably be disappointed. This includes everythig from holidays to a crisis. He has his ROUTINES which are very important to him and when they are upset, he gets agitated. Everything has to be HIS way. He says he has trouble turning his brain off: he is thinking all the time. There are lots of books out there about AS and I think I have read them all. I love him and I know he loves me, but everyday is a struggle. Above all, LONELINESS! Aspergers is such a complicated condition.