[giggle_monster]

I am dating this guy and he is really sweet and likes me for me. Well before me and him were dating I liked this other guy but he had a girl friend. So I asked him if we could be friends well he said yea. So we are friends. Well then me and my the guy I am dating now started dating after that and now the guy that I did like but had a girlfriend well I still like him because every time I see him or even neer him he say's perferted stuff like while your down there and sits near me in math, he has nvr set by me in math class and so I have no idea why he sat by me. If my boyfriend found out I wouldn't have a boyfriend and I don't know how to stop liking this other guy? I have a ton of fun when me and my boyfriend hang out. Both of the guy's are nice and great looking. I need help.some one help me.

[DoulaLC]

Maybe you shouldn't be exclusively dating your boyfriend. Part of the reason for dating is getting to know different people and finding out what traits you like and don't like. If you date exclusively, when you really like someone else as well, you won't have that opportunity to know them better.

You could continue to date just your boyfriend and try to keep your interest in the other guy as just a friend, you could let your boyfriend know you really like hanging out with him and want to continue seeing him, but just not exclusively. Of course if you go that route you will have to be prepared that he will date others as well. Your boyfriend will then be free choose whether he wants to continue dating you or possibly move on, or you could focus all of your attention right now on your boyfriend and try to forget about the other guy for now. Maybe in time, you will be in a position to see if anything would develop with him.

You'll have to decide which decision you are most comfortable with.

[sunnylove87]

Uh, so what I got out of this, the guy you like is perverted? He probably is like that to every girl. And if he didn't sit by you in math, then he doesn't want to show he is like that with you. Guys can be jerks. Ugh. But I wasn't trying to be hard, but I am speaking from experience...

[DoulaLC]

Ahhhh, good catch sunnylove87. I didn't catch the perverted part first time I read it. Maybe he thinks he is being funny, maybe it's way of showing he is interested, maybe he really is a jerk, who knows.

Giggle_monster, you'll have to really think about whether this is the sort of guy you would want to be with. Watch how he treats other people, as well as you. Be careful you aren't just attracked to his bad boy image and risk losing your boyfriend over it.

[Fr_Chuck]

When I started back dating, I was dating several people, that is what dating is, finding out about people to know if you want a more seroius date relationship

[I wish]

I'm in the exact situation, but I'm one of the guys... as one of the two guys... I would wish that the girl would choose me of course... but I also want her to be happy...

That being said... you should probably make up your mind and decide who you like more and be friends with the other. If the guy that you only want to stay friends with, cares about you as a friend or more, I'm sure that he will be happy that you're happy.

[giggle_monster]

Yea thanxs I really appreciatit.

[liz28]

Regardless to the fact that your with someone your going always find yourself attractive to someone else that might turn into you liking them. However if you have a boyfriend than you've to learn to control these feelings and respect your relationship. Now if your just dating, meaning your not committed to nobody, than your free to date how many guys you want.

Also, you have to watch who you interact with and what interactions you have with that person because there is a such thing as crossing the lines.

If you don't want to be with your boyfriend leave before you hurt him but don't do something your going regret later.

[chrissymarie]

It is normal to desire what you can't have. Focus on liking the man who likes you. Life will be much easier this way.

[giggle_monster]

Well I asked the other guy if me and my boyfriend wasn't datin if he would date me and he said he didn't know but then he said maybe. I have feelings for both of them

[DoulaLC]

If you decide that you want to see about dating the other guy, let your boyfriend know you no longer want to date just him exclusively. Do not go out with the other guy behind your boyfriend's back. Be up front and honest with both of them.

[giggle_monster]

I know