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    madajenja Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 23, 2009, 09:41 AM
    How can I get my ex to regain his feeling for me?
    I broke up with my ex 3 years ago we were very much in love. Since we both have had other relationships. We are both currently single and he still calls me to go out and be intimate. We are very good friends now but I still love him and want him back but he says he is not ready for a relationship now.. Why does he still want to spend time with me if he doesn't want me back.. He knows I still love him.. I really hurt him when I broke up with him years ago but I had recently been in a 10 year relationship with a previous partner and was still healing from it.. so I wasn't ready to be with him and I broke up with him.. I am six years older than him and I have two kids and he doesn't. Could this be a factor that he does not want to get back. He say he cares but is not in love with me anymore. He says I am the woman who has treated him the best and he says I am a good woman but does not want a relationship. How do I get him to have feelings for me again? Is it a good sign that he still calls me to spend time together?
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    Feb 23, 2009, 09:47 AM

    Not really. It sounds like he knows you are (possibly) willing to indulge him sexually, which he is more than happy to take you up on. However, he doesn't seem to have any feelings for you right now, and there's nothing you can do to encourage them.

    Certainly not through sleeping with him!
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    Feb 23, 2009, 10:10 AM

    Why buy the cow when you are getting the milk for free?
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    Feb 23, 2009, 01:40 PM

    If your hanging out with him and having sex with him in hopes of wining him back than don't because he already told you that he doesn't want anything serious.

    So stop living in the past and thinking anout what your had and look at what is going in the present.

    You can't get mads at him because you put yourself in this situation and allow youreslf to be used and open yourself up for this emotional ride. Time to get off.
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    Feb 24, 2009, 08:48 PM

    His feelings for you are not the same as yours for him. He wants to have fun, and you want more.

    I suggest you adjust your behavior, and find your fun with him, and forget the relationship. Or leave him alone.
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    Feb 24, 2009, 09:22 PM

    It's not a good sign. He calls to spend time just to get intimate with you and nothing more. He's emotionally unavailable and only him can change how he feels towards you, there's nothing much that you can do.
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