[amdhk719]

I have three daughters, 11, 13 and 14. Their dad and I have been separated since 1999 and divorced since 2004. He seemed to be taking care of the girls on the short visits that they spend with him; two nights a week for dinner and every other weekend. However, certain events have recently been brought to my attention that make me very concerned for my girls. They have gone on vacations with their dad and his girlfriend. He spends most of his time in the bedroom with the girlfriend and my daughters are left to fend for themselves. When they were only 7, 8 and 9, they went on a cruise and once again he spent his time in the bedroom and the girls were given walkie talkies to venture on their own. My middle child spent most of her time in the room because she was afraid. The weekends he has them he is out most of the time. Besides the lack of supervision, he verbally abuses them and continually displays outbursts of anger.
Recently my girls informed me that they viewed pornographic pictures of their dad and his girlfriend (now his future wife). These pictures were quite explicit and not something young girls should have seen of their father.
Children and Youth told me that there is nothing I can do to protect my girls. Isn’t there something that can be done?

[J_9]

I would contact my divorce attorney if I were you.

[educatedhorse_2005]

Get your attorney on it and have him file a petition with the courts that your ex has supervised visitation from now on.

Then explain to him exactly what your kids have told you.

Then you will need to sit down with the kids and explain to them that they will probably have to testify in front of a judge to exactly what has been going on.

Plus I believe your kids are old enough to decide if they want to keep going with there dad. I would ask them and then discuss this with the lawyer.

What state do you live.

[amdhk719]

Thank you for your response. I live in Pennsylvania.

[s_cianci]

Unfortunately, probably not, at least not without creating excessive hassels for yourself as well. You can contact the appropriate childrens' services agency for your state and see what they recommend ; that's probably your best option. But be prepared for a lot of runarounds and inactions. Try to gather as much concrete evidence as you can concerning the father's indiscretions. Seeking court action is probably useless as no judge is likely to deny him visitation, especially since he doesn't see them excessively as it is (just 2 nights a week and every other weekend.) He may get a "slap on the wrist" from the judge but in the long run that's worthless.

[talaniman]

Make sure you get the story straight first with any evidence you can get and confront your ex and see a lawyer. The consult should be free and he will know the best way to proceed.