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    sonie07 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 4, 2009, 04:16 PM
    Is my lover still attracted to me
    My girlfriend and I have been engaged for about a year and three months now. About two months ago we stop having sex. Now she says she doesn't want to sex anymore at all. Is still attracted to me or is there something wrong with us. She doesn't touch me or hold me we barely even kiss any more.
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    Feb 4, 2009, 06:26 PM

    There is something wrong all right.
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    Feb 4, 2009, 06:35 PM

    Your relationship has a major problem. You need to communicate immediately, and start preparing for the worst.
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    Feb 4, 2009, 06:35 PM
    Yeah, chuff's right! That is a bad sign, I mean our sex drive might not always be there at times, but no touching, no kissing... bad sign.

    Have you talked to her about it? That you feel there is a lack of physical proximity (of any kind)... because either this has to do with her feelings about you, your relationship or maybe she is going through something... so maybe the two of you should have a talk about it!
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    Feb 4, 2009, 06:46 PM

    Best to call off the engagement. Both of you are probably WAY too young. She needs a few years (maybe 5 or 10) to grow up. If she's doing this for attention - don't give her the satisfaction. Just move on. Not worth it. You'd be better to focus on your job now. I'm sorry that you have to go through this, but it's not normal behaviour. Move on, move forward and let it go (even if your Mom and her Mom are excited about "celebrating" and what to see this through.. it's not fair to you.) Don't let relatives pressure you to STAY together just so that everyone can enjoy the parties and the drinks. This is a LIFE decision. FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. You owe it to yourself to follow your gut. This is not normal. If you're in THIS BAD of a mess now, how much better do you think it will get as time moves on? It won't - it will get worse.
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    Feb 6, 2009, 01:08 AM

    Something is up, and you better find out what it is and deal with it, before you think about marriage, or even continuing the relationship.

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