[caty561]

I'm new to this site... Hello..

I've been in my relationship for 7yrs and we've had our fair share of issues.

4yrs ago he cheated and after sometime apart I decided to give himi another chance but ever since than I've lost total trust in him and I don't know if I will ever fully trust him again.

We are now going through issues and he has told me he needs some space (last time he said that he cheated) so my concern is; is there someone else or does he need space... We have been arguing for 3 days now and he has gotten to the point of being a complete jerk has disrespected me and I don't know what to do. I know that his way of fighting with me is to try to hurt my feelings but that's uncalled for. ANd yes I can admit that I can become annoying when we argue and I have my share of faults...

I ask myself does he love me or is he comfortable??

We we're planing on trying to have a family this year but I will not bring a child in this world with this situation.

I need some imput

[LifeChangesMan]

Hey,

I'm just going to try and keep this simple, and say that I've been active on this site for a few months now, and I just want to say people who get back together after a break up who are NOT separated for a significant amount of time, and / or go out and see other people see the same recurring problems.

So, after four years he got bored with you and cheated on you I guess, so now three years later he's in the same boat, and maybe the next number would be two years in the pattern to walk away or cheat, or what ever the situation may be.

There's never any reason to disrespect some one you care about no matter what the circumstances, and don't try and cope with it by saying I was annoying and can be annoying, no screw that, no one can treat you like dirt regardless of what you have done.

Yours Truly,
LCM

[kctiger]

Love isn't supposed to be this hard... or this complicated. Too many issues surround the relationship, and I don't think it is healthy or even enjoyable for either of you. I would make a clean break, as you should enjoy being around your partner. This, is clearly no fun at all.

[talaniman]

I think its safe to say not a lot of progress being made in all this time, so give him what he ask for, and this time break the cycle by leaving each other alone, or don't complain when he needs space again, later. You may be in love, but just don't work together very well.

[ja77]

I've lost total trust

There can not be a relationship where there is no trust. I think one of the key things to a relationship is full trust.

I think its time that you issued the space and moved on with your life and started to be happy.