Originally Posted by
Jiser
So here I am again after having a reunion wtih the people I travelled with including the girl I was 'with'. Of course nothing happened and the whole thing was swept under the carpet by her. Had a massive stress at her and I remember her saying it would never work...Distance (With alcohol of course).
There are 3 billion of them left.
Originally Posted by
Jiser
So there we are, an excellent weekend tainted by meeting up with a girl I really thought I could make a go of things with who obviously didn't want to despite our relationship when away. We live at oppposite ends of countries which I guess makes it easier to move on. But right now all what is on my mind is her and my friends.
How great is that for you? My latest ex girlfriend worked in my same building and I had to see her almost daily where she made up lies about me to her co workers. Yours lives on the other side of the country. Let's start looking at the positives here. When you are feeling down, think how much worse it could be, you could have been me suffering for months on end, instead you girl is gone and longer a part of you life. That's in your favor and hold on to that good news.
Originally Posted by
Jiser
Just wanted to get it out really. It sucks to be back home again suffering withdrawal symptons from my friends who I may never see again.
You always have me. Let's be honest, my bluntness and comedy are second to none!
Originally Posted by
Jiser
But hey...I have alot to look foward to which helps and as I try to analayse and learn from the past - learning lessons from this forum etc..The pain is still the same each time. All I have now is happy memories. I guess you just have to make new ones.
Jiser, I'm not sure if you were on this board earlier this year when after all I learned and tried to pass on and used to get my latest ex I compeletely forgot and turned into nice guy wuss boy and lost her again. I broke my own damn rule, "Once the challenge was gone so was she." I remember thinking how mad I was at myself for finally having the guidance and foresight to get it down and then screw it up with a girl I really had it bad for. I don't want to use the L word on this forum, but I was certainly there after a year of dating this girl. Long story short I came back here after months of being away knowing exactly what I had done wrong but still needing the verbal smacking to get back in line. The reason I tell you all this is because today I'm loving life again while the pain is still the same each time, the time they give you after the break up to rebuild and claim as your own is something no girl can ever take from you. It never feels like it when you are in emotional hell, but when you climb out and you have the knowledge that comes with it even if you've learned it before you feel incredible.
Now I had some happy memories with my ex as did you, but by giving up those memories to the past I've been able to accept new ones in the future. Just yesterday I scored a date with 19 year old... something I probably should not be doing in my early 30's but I thought she was 25 or so by the way she was talking about work experience and by the time I asked her to this club and she told me she couldn't get in because she was only 19 it was to late to go back. Okay it wasn't, but she's hot, and she's 19 so I'm going out with her. My point is if I had been with my ex this never would have happened. Now I'm not sure if anything will come of one night out, but I've been feeling like quite the stud in the last 24 hours so that alone is good enough for me. I know I come on here and try to be funny and although this sounds like it I trully mean this when I say it's not meant to be that way, but the feeling I had yesterday after getting that set up was incredible. That feeling is something an ex can never take from you. Ironically I drove past my ex today and all I could do was smile, because she's got nothing on this 19 year old hot chick.
It doesn't even have to be another woman though, it can just be spending time figuring out who you are and what you desire out of life and another girl or what you will put up with from another girl. The one thing I learned from my latest ex is that when she does X you do Y and you do it at all times. Now X can change but Y never does. In other words if she says she's going to stop by at 9 pm then you are available only at 9 pm (X) then you are only available at 9 pm(Y). At all times. If you start changing Y for her changes in X then your screwed. The man is the rock, she's water going in and out. The man is solid and consistent. Never forget... even if you have to learn it the hard way several times like I did.
Originally Posted by
Jiser
Ahh well life goes on, another 'relationship' failed on the list. Sometimes makes you wonder will there be anyone..
You and I both know that is not the attitude to have. Waiting for someone to come along like a movie is not going to help you. Furthermore, this relationship was not a failure. Failures only result in not learning anything, and once again you have gain real life experience for you next success because you have learn what not to do.