[angle09]

Okay so my boyfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago, he said that he loved me but couldn't be with me because he had nothing to offer to me.. I am in no way an interested person and all I want is for him to love me and be mine.. he says that he doesn't want me out of his life and wants to be friends.. I can't be friends with the one I love... I love him and it hurts when he tells me he loves me and yet doesn't even fight for us to stay in a relationship... this is a torture and all I want is to be by his side... what can I do to influence or make his confused mind clearer? :confused:

[Bural21]

Honestly... nothing.

Only time can tell what will happen.

Try to do things that don't involve him. Hang out with your friends, go shopping, join a gym, read a book, you get the point.

Yes, it's going to absolutely SUCK not being with him, but you'll slowly get to a point where you'll wake up one day and you won't even think about him. I promise you can do it.

This goes to any girl wondering how they can "get him back".

I'm sorry you have to go through this. Maybe all you need is time apart to clear your heads and just maybe give yourselves an opportunity to miss each other. And possibly - in that time, he'll come back. I cannot promise anything.

I'm not an expert in anyway, I've just dealt with enough relationship issues that I can promise you will get through as a better person. Even if you don't get him back, you'll learn something from this so your next relationship is a lot better.

Best of luck to you.

[firsttimedumped]

I am in the same situation... you cannot make him change his mind he will have to figure it out on his own... What you need to do is get out of the house and get yourself active... if you sit around all you will do is think of him..

Plan your days so that you always have something to do...
Give him the space he is asking for it's the only way...

[TrueFaith]

I'm sorry to hear your going threw this..
Its really hard

Give him space and time

And in the mean time.. tell him that you can't be friends with him. As this will just hurt you more.

So you be strong and keep self bussy

[Kitten78]

he said that he loved me but couldn't be with me because he had nothing to offer to me..

This is him having issues with himself. This is nothing that you can fix. Only he can fix this.

But you need to know that truly it does not having anything to do with you. It has to do with him not being ready to man up.

I pretty much got the same thing from my guy.
And the only thing I ever wanted from him was to love me. It hurts because you do not see what he does.

In an odd way it is almost true love for him to cut it off because he feels he will fail you.

I duuno... boys are dumb.

[mandybaldwin]

I don't think being friends with your ex is ann option just like all u wounderfull people have already said just let him go but explain your feeling to him that you love him but you have to let him go because it is more painful to be around him woundering if its meant to be then to just walk away. You never know he may come back or you will meet someone that loves you in return. If its meant to be it will be!

Nobody likes someone that obsesses about them.more likely to realise what they have lost when they are gone even for a while.