Originally Posted by
kp2171
my partner doesnt care for porn at all, and i honor that. i love well done, erotic and sensual pictures, as does she.
I think you laid out some very good points here. And you're right; there is a big difference between regular porn and "well done, erotic and sensual pictures." I feel much more comfortable with something like that. I think it's the "cheap factor" in regular porn that makes me uncomfortable.
Meemee, I do agree with trying to break your partner's control issue, which he's riding on double standard wheels. Really, what's he going to do about it? I know that some people can be very set in their ways, but it doesn't mean they're right or that they should be able to control what you're doing, especially if it's in your own private time and innocent and harmless enough. I know that if I did have porn, I would feel very uncomfortable if I thought I had to hide it from my partner. Frankly, that couldn't be good at any level.
Do you have a feeling as to why he feels the way he does? Could it be a cultural issue? Or does this come from his own personal attitudes about what he thinks women should do or not do, or say or not say, or think or not think...
Also, is the porn you were watching the same thing he watches, or was it different in some way? It sounds like your partner is against you watching any porn in general, but I'm curious to rule out the possibility that it's the material that bothers him.
As far as I'm concerned regarding your question, you should absolutely be "allowed" to watch, touch and do whatever you want without his "permission."