[Chebaby]

Hi my name is Avi, I am 18 an I started having sex at age 14 an over the period up 2 now I have been trying 2 fine the man for me an I can't find him... I have had 6 sexual partners an I am wondering if that's bad... I have not told anyone most my frens think its only 2-3. I try an get myself check and I stringly blieve in safe sex and I try 2 practice it most the times... Do u think its bad that I am hiding this? AN do you think its bad that I have had 6 sexual partners?

[Fr_Chuck]

Beyond merely a best friend, discussing how many sex partners one has is really no one else's business.

[ScottGem]

No I definitely don't think you are wrong for not discussing it. Your sex life is your own business and shouldn't be discussed with anyone.

But I do think its wrong that you have been sexually active since age 14. I think you need to concentrate on creating a relationship with a person before you get intimate with them. I also think you shouldn't be engaging in sexual intercourse unless you are emotionally and financially prepared to have a child. No birth control method is 100%

[Clough]

Hi, Avi!

I agree with the above answers. I would like to add, that this isn't a chat site and that if you really want to be understood here, it's best not to using chat language of any kind.

This site operates on an international level. If you ask a question to which you really want a good answer, someone from another country/language might come along to answer who would be the perfect person to answer your question, but might not try to answer it because they didn't understand your question because of the way that you wrote it.

Also, you suggest in one of your posts on a thread for someone to go to the Lord in prayers. If you do believe in Christ and the teachings of the Bible, then I'm wondering how you feel about your sexual behavior fitting in with the teachings of the Bible, please?

Thanks!

[SweetDee]

You know what Avi? I think that when we know better we do better.

You sound like you're questioning the decisions that you've made in your past...

You can't change the past... you can only learn from it.

I think that judging yourself in any harsh and negative way would be counter productive.

You know more about who you are NOW at 18 and I'm sure w/ all that you've learned you will make awesome choices for your future.

I, personally don't think anyone needs to know your business. How many boys/men you've been w/ is not all that important. It's what you've learned from it that counts...

I'm certain that once your focus is on yourself and your schooling/hobbies/sports, etc.. and you become more introspective rather than so "outward" and looking for a man... you'll find that it will happen... and love will find YOU.

Love always happens when your not looking... you've heard of that, no?

It's not bad to hide anything that's personal. You sound like a very good person to me, Avi. Just the fact that you're asking proves so much that you're concerned.

Live life and LEARN in the process. This makes us capable adults of choosing better choices, know what I mean?

[Chebaby]

Thank you all for your answers I will take all of them into great consideration because you have taken the time out to even answer my question. An yes sweetdee I do know what you mean... and clough I do believe in the lord and its only now I take more of the bible into great consideration and fit it into my life.
I also believe that persons must learn from there mistakes and every day I am granted life I give thanks and I have learned from every mistake I have made. The lord is good to me and I give thanks and praise now and forever more for that.

[Clough]

Dear Chebaby,

Thanks for being open-minded and listening to us. That's cool!

Also, thank you for all the improvement in your posting. It's much more legible and understandable now!

Great job! I would say that you're definitely on the right track! :)

God's Love and Peace to You!