[srizookie]

Hello, I'm writing this question just in case someone can help me. I'm a gay man .33 years old.im not interested in a sexual lifestyle.im interested in a stable healthy relationship. I'm an artist .people like me instantly and I have very good close friends, gay and straight that adore me.im healthy and I don't look bad at all.im getting fustrated because the lack of places to meet good men with the same desire to be stable.they all say they want something serius but always proves to be a lie.I always(ALWAYS) end up meeting the crazy ones or the wrong ones and the only times I had a relationships that lasted more than two weeks is generally people I'm not really into. I keep them around and tolerate them for the sake of trying to be monogamous or loved. I learned the harsh way that it doesn't work that way.I can't imagine what I'm doing wrong.I know of people who are retarded/stupid and people want to have a serious relationship with them. Until recently I was convincing myself that I don't need anyone that my destiny is to be alone but I know that a healthy human experience needs romantic relationships.im exercising taking care of me and I'm forcing myself to be positive but it sure doesn't change my luck with men. I wouldn't even know where can I meet men without dealing with cruisy sleazy places or nasty hook up websites.I truly don't believe that the gay factor limits my posibilities to love but I'm more concern about what in the world I'm doing wrong.everything that seems that has potential dessintegrates in an instant. Sometimes I feel cursed.am I bringing this to myself??

[talaniman]

There are less gay men in the world so the circle of opportunity is smaller.

Gay or straight my advise is the same, make sure you are building a happy productive life filled with friends, and activities that you enjoy, until your happiness attracts someone, the same as the rest of us. Doing what you love to do will put you with people that enjoy the same things you do, so just stay busy and enjoy yourself and there will be some one.

We all have to kiss a few frogs, until that person shows up in our lives. A word of caution, don't ever be that lonely, you lower your own standards, of who you may want as a life partner.

[srizookie]

Thank you for your answer.you are totally right.im just fustrated at the eternal frog kissing and some of my friends don't go through that.why?I wonder if my mind is wrong.this is hurting me.it makes me feel like I'm not worth loving

[johnoh]

What exactly are you looking for, I am a man of peace, love and trying to be healthier lol I can help you out and this whole world needs it

[talaniman]

Don't judge happiness by someone else's smiles, Make happiness from your own smiles.

[Kati-Katt]

Okay hun, your going to have to face these sad facts. A lot of men out there are complete s. From the standards you say you'd apreteate for a relationship I'd try to find a partner out of one of your best friends, someone you share things in common with and is reasonable in the sense that they actually apreteate you and what you are into. Someone who looks for compassion more the sexuality and attraction.