Why has he never had sex with me?
Hello,
I've been dating this guy for 9 months and we've never had sex. I told him before we started dating that I have herpes. I thought he would run for the border, but to my surprise he continued to date me.
I let him know everything there is to know about the disease and told him to educate himself on the issue. It took him months just to touch me and he would never let me touch him... If I tried he would restrain my hands and tell me that he just wanted to touch me. I've been fully naked in front of him and he will touch me till I have a orgasm, but won't take his pants off or let me see his penis. At first I understood that maybe its going to take him awhile to warm up to sex, but this is ridiculous.
I'm starting to wonder if there's something wrong with him and he doesn't know how to tell me. About 2 months ago he told me about a female "friend" from his job that died of AIDS. We talk about everything and he never brought the friend up until she was in her last days. When she died he went into a serious state of depression. (He was more depressed over her than when his grandmother passed a few months prior). I asked him if he ever had a sexual relationship with this friend and he replied no.
I told him we can practice safe sex and use condoms and he would be okay... even went as far as telling him I would offer to have my gyno talk to him and release my records to his doctor and he could do the same, so that we both would feel comfortable with each other... he said that's not necessary, I believe what you tell me. (I know that if I was in his situation I would jump on that offer, just to ease my mind).
I'm in love with this man, and I'm in need of some sexual attention. I've always practiced safe sex since I've been diagnosed and have never hurt anyone.
Do you think he has something greater than what I have going on with me, or do you think my thoughts are exaggerated? Please help because I'm sooooo confused!!
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