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    Dale007 Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
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    Sep 11, 2008, 02:48 AM
    I need to understand
    I' m a 40 yr old m with the beginning of a possible life threatening illness.. about 4 months ago I met Violet who is 22 and we started seeing each other. I have NEVER felt anything like the personal connection Ive felt with anyone like her.. it was beyond sexual.. we could TALK. The sex part we both very much enjoyed.
    Yesterday her and I went for dinner.. all was well as normal.. its an open relationship and she recently started.. recently seeing a 32 year old guy.. I was aware and all was fine.. we talked and she assured me all was well.. she has often told me she loves me.. is in love with me and I REALLY felt it was true in my heart..
    Today she tells we are ending our sexual part of our relationship.. that it felt weird to her over the past week.. but she didn't know how to tell me..
    She calims she still loves me but we can't be lovers.. Im so damn confused.. did I get dumped for another.. does she just need space.. will this change.. help me I'm hurting.. what do I do /did wrong ?

    ARE WE STILL FRIENDS OR??

    Thanks,
    Dale
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    Sep 11, 2008, 03:04 AM
    From my point of view, she wanted to intiate an "Open relationship" so that she had the opportunity to see other people. So she saw other people, met one, and now wants to be with him. I'm sorry, that's what it looks like to me.

    Those young'ns can be so darn unpredictable. I would suggest not contacting her and moving on. Regardless of your condition you must live life to its fullest and make yourself happy.

    CARPE DIEM!
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    Sep 11, 2008, 06:08 AM
    Yep she wants to be with the other guy now, you are now the friend to her. Sorry mate
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    Sep 11, 2008, 06:09 AM
    Feelings aside (and that's completely necessary to properly judge the reality of many situations... set your feelings aside), feelings aside... this is a dating experiment that is calmly coming to a conclusion.

    How difficult a conclusion it will be will be a measure of how mature and graceful you two are.
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    Sep 11, 2008, 06:29 AM
    It sounds like she has found someone else. Take care of yourself and your health. Spend your time with family and friends. Live life to the fullest.
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    Sep 11, 2008, 07:29 AM
    Yep, you got dumped for another, and if you can accept she has some other love interest, then you can be friends. Otherwise leave her alone, and pursue your own interest, and let her do the same.
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