[barbiechick123]

So, my mom is a complete neurotic, every time I'm enjoying myself she has to barge into my room and tell me to clean it up, then when I say ten minutes or I'll do it in 5 minutes. She will start yelling and telling me to pick things up and start doing it for me, and its been driving me insane, and another thing is that I have to wear socks all the time around the house and when I don't she threatens to ground me! It has been so hard living with her, it is literally making me sick, my stomach hurts right now. I don't know what to do, I am most definitely not going to put eery single thing away I take off and what not, I will try but won't succeed.

Sorry for the long read, but I really need to deal with this, my life is stressful enough, I don't need my mom making it worse.

[chiradeep]

Dear friend! I can understand how you feel... Don't worry time is great healer. Please just do it what she wants immediately... Parents always want absolute obedience. My mom is the same. Even if I am already married, she wants and expects the same obedience from us, children. Trust me she loves you and she wants to make you perfect in everything...
Just do it as she wants... I will be praying for you... May God bless you...

[JBeaucaire]

I fully expect to get "disagreed with"... but you did come and ask. I don't find, from your short post, that your mother IS making your life worse. Anytime you are being told the same thing over and over again by ANYONE should indicate to you that YOU aren't paying attention.

You most certainly CAN put away your clothes as you take them off. Do you really think it's that much more work to drop dirty clothes into a basket instead of the floor? Really? Seriously? Free room, free food, shelter, clothing... all provided for you free of charge, and you can't keep these gifts off the floor after repeatedly being asked?

Stress IS being added in your home, but your mother isn't doing it.

Based on the lists of things kids post here about problems with their parents, I'm thinking you can do something as simple as keeping your room clean... WITHOUT being told at all. Don't you?

Socks around the house sounds like good hygiene. Don't you think?

I PROMISE you... if you keep your room orderly as a habit, your mother WILL stop bugging you about it. Guaranteed!

[JBeaucaire]

FOLLOWUP: You don't say how old you are, so I'm going to assume 13-15 years old. You may not have discovered how true what I'm about to say is, but you will someday. Think about it now...

Life is about positive manipulation. Your parents, or specifically your mother, is going to be the source of many things you need/want over the next X-years. Permissions, money, freedom, added luxuries (drivers's license, access to the car, new cell phones... ) all of these things come from her/them.

So, I encourage you to think about the long-term benefits of being obedient to her wishes on things like your room. By defying her, you set the tone NOW to make it difficult/impossible to get some things from her in the future. Not only is the trust not there, she's not motivated to say "yes" anyway because you make things so adversarial.

On the other hand, if you bide your time and take care of these things before she even asks, her opinion of you changes, her trust in you rises, and the more you want, the more you can get because you manipulate the situation AHEAD OF TIME in your favor by doing things she wants. Even going out of your way to do things she hasn't even asked yet.

It's work, but mom/dad REALLY need a solid foundation to say "yes" to all the things YOU are going to want in the coming years. Manipulate your environment. Give them every reason to decide in your favor.