[Laura Starr]

My husband and I have been together for a total of six months... yeah I know... short period to know one another. Well I recently found "escort services" close to home on his computer. (no I wasn't snooping I just came across them when I was typeing something into google)

I LOVE to have sex anytime I can get it... I ask him if he wants a blowjob at least 2 times a day! Since both of us work from home, I don't think he doing anything, but he does go to "meetings"... should I be worried?

[Alty]

Have you confronted him with what you found? He may have an explanation, or it could be something serious, but until you ask him you won't be able to determine what's going on.

Good luck.

[Fr_Chuck]

Not worried if you don't mind him cheating on you. If you wish to share him and let him go, not a thing to worry about,

[twinkiedooter]

Escort services cost money - does he have money to throw around? Do you need some swell disease of the week? Be worried, very worried indeed. Are you ever invited to his meetings? Probably not.

[cece21]

I would be asking some questions! If my husband was looking up escort services his a** would be out of the house, because we got tw kids and thereain't no time for bulls*#t and possibly getting an STD. So if I were you I would ask!!

[kp2171]

If he stumbled across a questionable site, that's one thing.

A few weeks ago my wife mistyped the name of a URL and she was rerouted to, apparently, PornTube. I'm in the kitchen and she yells "honey, im on porn tube!" to which my response, in my head, as I'm hustling down the hall is "well i sure as heck didnt upload a vid so dont blame me if your naked body is online!"... again, turned out one letter off a URL can get you into ugly places.

That said... if you saw this within a Google search as a shortcut to a recently typed entry, that's completely about his fingers doing the walking. No errant typo there.

Should you be upset? Of course.

Does it mean he is cheating? no. is he curious to what is out there? Maybe. I've read about and seen many things I don't ever care to partake in or see up close and personal.

Not sure asking to get him off so often is in your best interest. A little sexual tension goes a long way.

When I first started using craigslist I sorted through the personals, including the casual encounters. I had no interest in pursuing anything, but was curious as to what was on that site. Even discussed it with my wife, as we both were using it for home furnishing searches.

So viewing that site didn't mean a thing in terms of my commitment to my wife... had she walked in the room I wouldn't have closed a thing.

But I surely would be talking to my spouse if I found a search for escort services... just as id be nervous if I found an active search for "divorce lawyers"... if nothing else, id probably sit back quietly and see what else comes up.

I'm not the snooping kind, but in your case, id likely be talking to my partner now, or waiting and watching.

[Laura Starr]

Thanks everyone...

I asked my husband about it and he told me that he heard that some porn stars are escores and he was just curious to see if any of them live in our back yard...

Then he smiled and told me I was being silly for thinking anything bad.

[Xrayman]

Mmmm. Sounds suspect to me.

[BetrayalBtCamp]

Yes, you should be worried.

It doesn't matter how many times a wife offers sex, men cheat for a lot of reasons & variety is only one of them. Some men have more sex with their wives while cheating, some less & some never change their pattern at all. And if he was seeing hookers, the odds of his telling the truth without more solid proof he was busted is very slim. Of course, it is also possible he is telling the truth.

It would be prudent for you to keep a close eye on what is really going on with him. Especially not knowing him for very long & it being local escort info he was looking at.

[smoothy]

There is a lot of spam that will get you to those places without wanting to. But if he is actively looking there is a reason... maybe. Maybe he is looking for free photos of real women... maybe its something more. Are you having any issues in your marriage right now? If you are that might be why. Its hard to give an exact answer. He may look out of curiousity, he may be window shopping... he may do it to see pictures... or maybe some other reason entirely. What I mean is there may be a number of reasons. Some innocent, others not.

[sylvan_1998]

I think maybe you should trust your instinct here. You had a concern. You asked him. He gave you a "plausible" answer. I say playsible because you believe him. I personally think you should trust him until your trust is broken. You find more sites... he seems less/more interested... un accounted for time losses... numbers... secrecy.

But, I personally think he told you the truth. Be cautious but don't let this become a green eyed monster to control your every thought

[Choux]

Girl, for heaven's sake!

As Dr. Phil would say, "You're driving your life off into a ditch!"

This guy is playing you like a violin... you got to get a backbone and get your life in order.
Make your life's decisions based on facts, not on wishful thinking and emotionality!

Leave this bum.

YOu are worthy of having a good and happy life, but you have to avoid the pitfalls. :)

[Synnen]

In other words--nobody but your man KNOWS if he is cheating on you, and nobody but you can tell you if you really should be worried.

If you buy his answer, GREAT! I personally see it as a plausible answer.

However--if you have a gut feeling it's not true, I'd do a bit more searching.

There's no way any of us can tell you the truth of what's going on--we're not there.

[kp2171]

I ended up on a porn site once when looking up a car. Guy down the street is semi-retired at 45... all he does is buy old cars he likes, tinkers with them, and sells for a profit. What a life.

Anyhoo all I did was look up the make and model off Yahoo and ended up at a side that was half soft porn, half cars. My wife noticed the URL in the drop down frame and asked about it. My "excuse" might be taken by some as a lie, but the browser history wouldve shown the truth in terms of what was searched in what order.

As smoothy said and syn supported... it could be nothing but bored browsing and it could be a red flag on fire.

Personally, if my partner found an active search, where id clearly typed in "escort services" in Yahoo or Google, her boot would be so far up my arse I could taste the leather. Like I said... if I found she typed in "divorce lawyers" and searched for answers, id be a lot more anxious than if it was just clinking on a site that got a link to another site that suddenly lead you someplace you weren't looking for.

But unfortunately, we can't tell you the truth.

[loraina]

My husband and i have been together for a total of six months...yeah i know...short period of time to know one another. Well i recently found "escort services" close to home on his computer. (no i wasnt snooping i just came accross them when i was typeing something into google)

i LOVE to have sex anytime i can get it...i ask him if he wants a blowjob at least 2 times a day! since both of us work from home, i dont think he doing anything, but he does go to "meetings"....should i be worried?

I would confront him and see what he has to say if you still are not satified with the answer he gives than take a stroll when he has his meetings to see where he is going.

[lwelch]

Looking something up on the internet does not automatically mean he is cheating or sniffing around for someone else. Pay very close attention to where his money is going

[smoothy]

thanks everyone...

I asked my husband about it and he told me that he heard that some porn stars are escores and he was just curious to see if any of them live in our back yard...

then he smiled and told me i was being silly for thinking anything bad.

Sounds reasonible. In fact there ARE some famous porn stars that actually do that. Not that I'd pay a single cent and go. Or go even if it was free. Hell who knows what some of these people might have. Testing or no testing.

[BetrayalBtCamp]

Did you ask him what difference it made if a porn star escort was in the backyard or not? Of couse, you're likely to get only the "I was just curious" answer. But maybe you can find out what it is about porn stars or escorts that is getting his attention. Ask him if his sex life with you is satisfactory to him, if his relationship with you is working for him & if there is anything he would like to be different.

The door has been opened to discuss how you two can improve the relationship you have with each other, might as well swing it right open & make it even better! :)

Don't do it in an angry defensive way, do it sincerely in a loving, concerned life partner way. Preferably when you are cuddling together & both are relaxed & not stressed. Start by letting him know the ways you love him & what specific things you love him doing for you. Let him know you want to be the best partner to him you can be which means you are interested in what he thinks about your relationship & how to make it better. Ask if there are things he'd like to do with you that you guys haven't done yet.

Then LISTEN to what he says. Let him know you appreciate his thoughts & his sharing them with you, that something that can be hard for guys to do, so if he does open up give him credit for that.

[phoebster103]

I've been married for 24ys... I just found out in his Google history him viewing "sex obituaries" then right after "Be An Alpha Male - Attract Easy Sex" then followed by "escorts" on a site called backstage.com. Not looking good wouldn't you say? Words could mean everything only if they are backed up by their actions. This is very disturbing to me to say the least. We've been through everything a marriage could go through & finally made it to present. Went through the on line dating, emailing other women, porn, etc. etc. These last 4 yrs I've made some decisions & changes in my life to be a strong confident woman. I am strong in my faith & in myself. This is definitely not what I signed up for. I don't care if they were just browsing or whatever the excuse is... being faithful is just as important in the mind as in body. A man isn't an animal who goes on instinct they have a highly developed brain & knows right from wrong & make good or bad decisions. Women/Men could be the same but have the capability to CHOOSE not to betray the other once they enter into a commitment especially marriage. There is no easy way around this just is what it is & believe me this isn't something I plan to let slip by. I am concerned for my own being & health as well as I like who I am & know no one is deserving of mistreating my trust & faith like that. Come on women... they know what they are doing is wrong they just choose to make it not important enough not to do it. Hold them accountable like I will.

[smoothy]

You did notice this thread is 4 years dead?