[is this right]

I am 30, and a girl I have just met is 23.

I met her the day before I planned to end my relationship of 6 years with another girlfriend. While I know getting straight into seeing someone has its own issues and problems, I really like this girl and we ar on the same page in terms of taking it slow etc

She loves going out, almost ever night with friends/work friends, and I have my own life too with friends and playing sport etc...

I just can't help feeling that at somepoint she is going to think that she wants to be free to go out and start seeing guys of her own age, who also want to go out all the time, or maybe she will meet one when she is out.

To protect myself from this happening down the line, maybe I should just call it all off now?

Or do I take the plunge/chill out, and just see what happens.

I am ready to start looking at people on the basis of are they 'the one', and in the back of my mind consider the long term, where as she at 23 is going to be miles away from thinking about all that kind of stuff(as I was ehan I was 23!)

Try it out and enjoy it, to see where it goes vs protect myself and find someone older?

[fjsmith81]

Try it out. There is never a one size fits all relationship. Sometimes she may think that you are a little too stuffy and sometimes you may think that she is a little too immature. Those are some off the things that may come from this relationship. Some other things can be finding love, actually enjoying each others' company, or finding that this is the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with.

Seven years is not a huge age gap. Especially when the man is the older party. Btw there are 23 year women that do think about marriage and children and all of the commitment things. So she may not be miles away from your thinking.

Keep on doing what you are doing, take it slow, and see where it goes. From the sound of it you just met her and it may be a little too early to start putting all of this pressure on this blossoming relationship. Especially if you just got out of a serious relationship yourself.
Good luck

[Justwantfair]

I believe that you should always enjoy the person you are with, whether they are the one with show itself in time (it took you six years the last time). Age should not be a factor when it comes to love although it may pose some situations for life experience and goals. My parents are celebrating 25 years of marriage this year, they met when my father was 36 and she was 18! So it can work. You should judge this woman by her goals and how she sees a future with you, how you connect, how well you relate, and converse. Age should not be a factor.

[N0help4u]

You can always 'protect yourself' and see her casually as a friend until you know each other better to decide. Any more it seems like all or nothing relationships everybody wants to jump into a quick relationship and then ask questions later after they are emotionally attached and realize they aren't getting along all that well and then want to break up.
Why not go at the pace you have been and ask questions to really find out where her head is at?

[DBmtgprocessor]

I married my husband when he was 23 and I was 31. Married now 16 1/2 years and still going strong. It can work.

[brkfstatiffs]

I think you should go for it. I was 23 and my ex was 30 (7 yrs a part), if you feel in your gut that it's worth a shot - then go for it. Honestly a lot of us girls, tend to act and think older then our age (I'm in my mid 20's) and personally like older guys 29-32, they have been around the block more and know what's up in terms of a relationship etc. Go for it!