[giani513]

I am the father of a 16-month-old daughter. Her crib is pushed against ours as a co-sleeper. While we shower, she has access into our bathroom. When I get out of the shower, I don't use a towel to cover up, and on most nights I sleep in the nude. I feel there is nothing to be ashamed of by being naked around my house (I am not a nudist), but at the same time I do not want to be inappropriate to my daughter, nor do I want to be accused of endangering the welfare of my child or any other illegal acts.

[ISneezeFunny]

Reasonable question. I think the minute she starts pointing and asking questions, you should probably stop being naked around her.

[tickle]

You have to remember the human body is not inappropriate nude. It is only inappropriate when we make it sound or look disgusting.

When she starts asking questions like what is that fur doing between your legs, you can either try to explain or cover up and explain at a later date.

[N0help4u]

I remember things from when I was around 2 years old. I would say start wearing a man's robe to go from the bathroom. Even if it is rather skimpy.
Child Protective Services told the Judge my old boyfriend ran around the house half naked because he didn't wear a shirt. In the meantime he ALWAYS wore Levi Jeans NEVER shorts of any kind. People can color things very different than they are.
Also had a friend that breastfed until her kid was old enough to say words. She put a stop to that immediately when they were in church and the kid yelled out WANT BOOBY!

[mels mom]

As sone as you notice her looking , or start to talk.

[simoneaugie]

I think shame about our bodies is learned. Secrets and hiding create shame. You have pubic hair, penis and testicles. Whether dressed or not, they're there. Are these parts of yourself shameful? No way.

When away from people who are not comfortable with nakedness, my family is comfortable. If comfortable means naked feet, that's fine. If comfortable means naked all over, that's fine too. Our daughter only gives her dad cursory glances, she has come to accept that he has different parts than she does and sometimes, they're visible. Our bodies are what we live in.

Having sexual organs does not mean that you will rape or abuse your child. Rape and abuse do not need to occur because she has seen male sexual organs. Hiding the fact that we are sexual, have sexual organs is cause for mystery. The ongoing shame mystifies me.

[TwinkletOes26]

Please wear clothes around your daughter my mom walks around the house naked... my stepdad doesn't mind but I do yuck

[simoneaugie]

People are always naked, under their clothes. It is not "yuk!" Someone who deliberately exposes sexual organs for the purpose of getting a reaction is likely a victim of being taught that the human body is shameful and only exposed for sex.

Maybe it should be okay to be naked in front of others only if your body is perfect?

[N0help4u]

I know I wouldn't want to see my mom or dad or my kids naked
I like keeping that for special someone. Nothing to do with how good looking somebody is.

[TwinkletOes26]

Thank you no help no child wants to see their parent(s) naked again rite now my mom is walking in the hall naked ewwwwwww sorry it just is... now if tila tequila wants to go around naked that's hot mmmm hmmm :) ~daydreaming about tila tequila~

[JudyKayTee]

I remember things from when I was around 2 years old. I would say start wearing a man's robe to go from the bathroom. Even if it is rather skimpy.
Child Protective Services told the Judge my old bf ran around the house half naked because he didn't wear a shirt. In the meantime he ALWAYS wore Levi Jeans NEVER shorts of any kind. People can color things very different than they are.
Also had a friend that breastfed until her kid was old enough to say words. She put a stop to that immediately when they were in church and the kid yelled out WANT BOOBY!

In the middle of this serious thread I read this and burst out laughing -

I don't know when nudity in front of your children is appropriate or inappropriate. I know as a stepmother you have to be very careful.

[Fr_Chuck]

First I would go as far that at 16 month why is the child still sleeping in your bedroom, they need to have their own bedroom. And personally I have issues with some things, for example today at the pool a man brought his two daughters into the changing room, men naked all over the place. Sorry but there are some things in sociey that does not need to be done. I would stop the nudity in front of the child, while at this age it may not be a real issue, but let CPS have to come in for some investigation and there is no doubt it would be a issue.

[JudyKayTee]

First I would go as far that at 16 month why is the child still sleeping in your bedroom, they need to have their own bedroom. And personally I have issues with some things, for example today at the pool a man brought his two daughters into the changing room, men naked all over the place. Sorry but there are some things in sociey that does not need to be done. I would stop the nudity in front of the child, while at this age it may not be a real issue, but let CPS have to come in for some investigation and there is no doubt it would be a issue.

And while we're sort of on the subject let's say a few words about boys in ladies rest rooms - I stopped while working the road last week and a woman was in there with a boy about 9 years old.

I have also been in the ladies room when a father came in with his young daughter, unannounced.

I have no problem with a father by himself with a daughter (or mother alone with a son), asking people going into the ladies room if they can go in but to just walk in - ?

Comments on this post: aliciag940 disagrees: I still take my 7 yr old son into the ladies room with me... I'm terrified that if he goes into the mens room alone, something might happen :(

Do you know how the "remarks" section works? You gave me a reddie/bad advice mark. This is what I said: "I have no problem with a father by himself with a daughter (or mother alone with a son), asking people going into the ladies room if they can go in but to just walk in -?"

You gave me a reddie for bad advice stating "I still take my 7 yr old son into the ladies room with me - "

Did I suggest that you not do that or did I suggest that you ask/warn other people that you and your son are coming in?

You have misused the comment feature and I believe you misread my post.

[TwinkletOes26]

I'm begging you for the sake of your daughter put on some clothes think about it would you want to see your mama naked

[ScottGem]

I wrestled with this my daughter. The way I handled it was not to hide, but not to be overt either. If she happened to walk in I wasn't going to scramble to coverup, but neither was I going to walk around nude. As it turned out, I never had to worry about it.

[pdaher]

I just think it's important for people to respect each others privacy. Everyone needs some private space. When my daughter was two I saw her humping one of her stuffed animals while watching cartoons in the middle of the livingroom. I explained to her that there are certain things that we do in private so we don't make people uncomfortable and then I started teaching her to knock before entering a room with a closed door, etc. Your daughter will probably not remember you walking around naked in front of her at this age, but she'll start potty training soon and becoming more aware of her own need for privacy. If you respect someone, they will respect you back. You can't demand it at any age.

[danielnoahsmommy]

It it time to cover up when you feel uncomfortable. If a child is raised in an environment where the parents are comfortable with their bodies they will be with there's.

[kiffydee]

I am the father of a 16-month-old daughter. Her crib is pushed against ours as a co-sleeper. While we shower, she has access into our bathroom. When I get out of the shower, I don't use a towel to cover up, and on most nights I sleep in the nude. I feel there is nothing to be ashamed of by being naked around my house (I am not a nudist), but at the same time I do not want to be inappropriate to my daughter, nor do I want to be accused of endangering the welfare of my child or any other illegal acts.

I had the same question. I chose to start closing doors when changing and not to go from the bathroom to the bedroom without using a towel or robe when they started pointing . About the same age as your daughter.
They are now 8 and 12 and have learned the respect for privacy. But on a light note they are not ashamed and if they have a problem in a personal area they are quick to say "hey mom I've got a problem " and will ask me to check.
When about 5 yrs they asked about differences and I answered honest and only enough information to satisfy at the particular time.
I wish you luck.

[twinkiedooter]

I was a nudist when I was younger at say age 18 to 22 and went to a wonderful nudist camp in New Jersey. This was a true family nudist camp where children of all ages were there with their parents. One odd thing I did notice about a nudist camp was that it was completely asexual in that no one seemed to be aroused by anyone else. It was kind of fun watching grown men run down the hillside with their goo goos flopping away. I must admit that I did look at first and then it got to be old hat and didn't bother looking anymore. I noticed the kids of any age were very comfortable around naked adults and did not point or stare. They had grown up with this and were very well adjusted children. No, I do not recommend this experience to everyone, but I just wanted to share what it was like from the inside of a nudist colony looking out. Oh yes, I did want to also share that I met some of the most intellectual professional people you could imagine there who held extremely well paid jobs in careers such as medicine, law, home builders, etc. My favorite person was a psychiatrist who went on to be a forensic psychiatrist and then an attorney and then a high up individual in the Penna gov't in Phila. He was a good friend of mine for 20 years and went regularly to the camp. If a person feels self confident with their own body whether they are fat or thin, other people overlook their physical imperfections and home in on their mind.