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    Jul 4, 2008, 01:20 PM
    wouldn't mind if my boyfriend watched porn
    If I had a boyfriend I wouldn't mind if he watched porn, is this unnormal?

    I mean as long as it's not too much, too much = several hours a day.
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    Jul 4, 2008, 02:42 PM
    There is no "normal" each person has their own opinoins, sadly porn is an addiction for many people. And if hours a day is too much how much is not, one hour a day, two hours a day. What kind of porn would be OK, would you want him to watch it only with you there ?

    Each person has their own idea of what is right or wrong
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    Jul 4, 2008, 04:15 PM
    I don't mind if my boyfriend watches porn, usually I watch it with him. He's not addicted to it and bearly watch it once a month.
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    Jul 4, 2008, 05:24 PM
    I don't think it's unusual. My husband usually uses it to jerk off once a day. We work a lot and don't have time to have as much sex as we'd like so he uses that and jerks off. I don't mind at all. He's got to do what's got to be done. Lol
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    Jul 4, 2008, 06:39 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by steph86
    If I had a boyfriend I wouldn't mind if he watched porn, is this unnormal?

    I mean as long as it's not too much, too much = several hours a day.
    Good for you. There is a big difference between watching porn at home or going around to other people while your with somebody.

    It is good you feel that way, just do not openly say that to your boyfriend whenever you get one. Do not give a free card like that unless you want to watch it together.

    Is it unusual or not normal, NO. The only thing is there are lots of women who feel inferior or get a complex thinking their boyfriend loves porn more then them.
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    Jul 4, 2008, 06:55 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by steph86
    If I had a boyfriend I wouldn't mind if he watched porn, is this unnormal?

    I mean as long as it's not too much, too much = several hours a day.
    Take the time to make sure whomever you hook up with agrees, as there really is no such thing as normal, but only what your willing to put up with.
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    Jul 4, 2008, 09:06 PM
    I don't care that my boyfriend watches porn once in a while when I'm not home, I don't really care as long as it's not my computer, and I don't have to see it, but he doesn't watch porn every day or anything, it's not like he is spending so much time watching porn that it affects his life. I do explain to him that just because it's in porn doesn't mean it's ever happening in our bedroom, but I think he just watches it when he's bored and I'm not around.
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    Jul 5, 2008, 12:28 PM
    The key word is *IF*... if you had a boyfriend. :)

    In a real relationship, when you saw that he was more interested in 2 hours of daily porn than he is interested in you, you would feel differently. That kind of porn viewing indicates that porn is the object of desire, not real live females.
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    Jul 5, 2008, 02:03 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck
    What kind of porn would be ok, would you want him to watch it only with you there ?
    As long as it's nothing gay or involving any bondage, then I'm OK with it. And I don't think it would matter whether I was there or not.
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    Jul 5, 2008, 02:09 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Choux
    The key word is *IF*...if you had a boyfriend. :)

    In a real relationship, when you saw that he was more interested in 2 hours of daily porn than he is interested in you, you would feel differently. That kind of porn viewing indicates that porn is the object of desire, not real live females.
    That's true! Completely agree. I often write or speak first and think later. Now when I've thought this through, 2 hours a day would definitely be too much. I wouldn't mind less frequent viewing though.
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    Jul 5, 2008, 02:59 PM
    Well, I'm going to have to disagree with choux on this one... and only for this reason. Some men, the ones like my husband that use it to jerk off too, it takes them a long time to "get the job done" it takes my husband at least an hour to get it done. But, it doesn't affect his life in any other way. We don't spend any less time together nor does it rule his life as in he would turn me down to watch porn... that would never happen in our house! I guess what I'm trying to say is that as long as his watching porn doesn't turn into an addiction then it should be OK.
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    Jul 5, 2008, 05:07 PM
    It can ruin a relationship and it can be a healthy tool for the bedroom. When it becomes a distraction of energy from the bedroom (lack of sex due to excessive self stim, a feeling of not being good enough by the other partner, etc) it's a real problem.

    You are not abnormal... in that there are clearly others who are open to this, willing to share it, etc... but also there are some who see it as a betrayal or a distraction.
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    Jul 7, 2008, 09:41 AM
    I'm married, watch porn and my wife doesn't care, in fact we have found what kinds she likes and we watch that together at times. She doesn't get her panties in a knot because she never gets neglected in favor of Rosey Palmer and her sisters.

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