[lisaroche]

Maybe this should be in the tips forum, but I'll post it here first...

My husband's brother and sister-in-law died in an accident and we are adopting their 2 children, ages 4 and 6. I am also pregnant with my first child. I know the children well and I really love them, but I'm worried about parenting them, as I've never had any children before. I figured I would just learn as I went along, with my baby, when he was born. But now I feel I need to learn things really quick! Maybe I'm stressing too much, but anyways I would appreciate some advice.

First of all, does anyone have any recommendations of good childcare websites or books? Would it be a good idea for my husband and I to go to a parenting class? I am not even sure what should be a good bedtime for them, how much they should eat, what I should tolerate and shouldn't tolerate behaviour wise, how much TV they should be allowed to watch, etc, etc... I know a lot of those things are individual and vary among families, but I really feel clueless and stupid. I have my husband's parents and my adoptive parents to ask for advice as well, but if anyone has any good suggestions, ideas, etc, I would really appreciate it. Right now we are staying at my husband's parents' house, but we will be flying home with the children (!!) this coming Monday, and I'm starting to freak out about it!

I would imagine e in the beginning to keep there bed times and schedule similar to what they were used to with their parents. Did they read before bed did they have chat time before bed i.e. discuss how was there day etc. I have 4 children close togher they really do love a schedule and consistancy. Rember tell them how much you love them as much as possible