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    jmercier Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jun 20, 2008, 04:44 PM
    I need HELP I don't know what to do about my ex?
    My ex girlfriend wanted me back, however when we started to see each other, here mother attacked me with extrême anger. I did nothing wrong to here or my ex, she just hates my guts. Now since then my ex call it off and doesn't want to talk about it. She started seaying other people. I told here many times that here mother doesn't control here life but she keeps saying that she doesn't want to defend me or fight with her mother. I don't know what to do? I know it here crazy mother that is the cause. If it was not for here we would still be together. We have kids also together and this is totally wrong cause the are in the middle of this.


    Thks !


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    Jun 20, 2008, 04:47 PM
    If she is old enough to have kids, and her own mom is still controlling her, then she will always be in control. I say through in the towel and find someone that not still attached to the tit. Lol Ultimatly, blood is thicker than water and I don't see her turing on her mom for you or anyone
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    Jun 20, 2008, 04:58 PM
    You need to point out that you have kids and if you both have feelings for each other, its definitely worth trying, regardless of what her mother thinks. BUT.. what was the reason you broke up before? Was the only reason her mother? Does her mother really just dislike you for no reason or is there a valid reason? You should speak with your ex, if you love her you'de try and work it out with the mother. There is ALWAYS a reason for someone disliking someone else, whether it be something uv done, or even just your character, so just ask your ex if she knows why her mum doesn't like you. You may not like her mother, but maybe you should sit down with her and try and have a chat about why she feels that way about you.. maybe you could change her mind? Or if not, at least agree to keeping the peace for her daughters sake and happiness?
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    Jun 20, 2008, 05:19 PM
    If you have not been able to ween her off her mother yet, after having children with her, you will never be able to do it, so get used to her mother staying in the picture.

    I would suggest meeting on neutral ground so that you can spend time with the children, and promise not to bring up the subject of her mother.

    This should not wind up being a competition.. it should be all about you and your relationship with the children. You don't have to see their grandmother ever again if you don't want to, but you need to accept the fact that she is their grandmother and stop placing your 'woman' in the middle of it all. It's stressful and childish.

    You might get back together, or just might not, but as a father - this should not be your priority. Be a good dad, as this is the only thing you have certain control over. Don't force them to be in the middle either - that would be a big mistake.

    Good luck.

    Take a look at the whole picture and repaint it if you want people to change their mind about you.. there is always room for improvement - whether the other is willing or not.
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    Jun 21, 2008, 05:32 PM
    Just try being a good dad, and leave the drama queens alone. Pray for their sanity.
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    Jun 21, 2008, 05:41 PM
    How old are both of you? Do you have your own place?
    Have you filed for joint custody? Get to see your kids? Pay child support?

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