[linnealand]

Within a year of my parents' divorce (after 37 years of marriage), my father got remarried.

My younger sister, who can be very difficult to get along with, was staying in the family home with my father and (then) fiancé, and she wound up arguing regularly with our step-mother-to-be.

I live in italy, and my father flew my very long-term boyfriend and I to miami and New York for the receptions.

I have a younger sister (age 24), and I am 28. Neither of us were asked to play a part in the wedding party.

On my father's side of the wedding party were his parents, his best friend, and his brother-in-law (with whom he is certainly not close).

On my step-mother's side of the wedding party were her mother, her sister, her best friend, and her nieces.

I had only met my step-mother-to-be two times, which totaled about two and a half weeks of time together, before they were married.

I don't understand why I wasn't asked to participate. I have considered the possibility that imperfect waters between my step-mother and my sister led the bride and groom to decide that it wasn't the best idea, but if this is true I don't feel that it's fair for me to have been excluded. I had only been accepting and supportive of my father's girlfriend, to the extreme considering the circumstances, and I don't believe that most people in my position would have been so nice about it.

Is it possible that the idea of putting us in the wedding party simply didn't cross their minds? I just don't get it. I haven't asked either one of them about this since I don't want to create issues.

Is it or is it not standard for a re-marrying couple to include their children/step-children-to-be in the wedding?

Due to poor planning, the arranged seating never went through, and my sister and I didn't even wind up sitting at their table at the big reception or at the rehearsal dinner.

What's going on here?

[N0help4u]

A. It is not like your other sister(s) was in the wedding party either.
B. The custom is the groom picks males (his best friend, and his brother-in-law)
And the bride picks females (her sister, her best friend, and her nieces)
So it was nothing against you.