You've dated long enough that you're comfortable together. That means you're behaving normally. You're longing for the time when he didn't behave normally, when he behaved "fake" like when you first start going out with someone and want to convince them to like you, so you overdo the attention in many ways.
That behavior can't last. It can't last because it's fake.
Now that you've dated each other long enough to get comfortable, you're supposed to take this time to decide if you two are really good for each other, do you make each other's lives better or not?
Of course you're both making lists of things you don't like right now, that's NORMAL. But the list isn't to identify the things you don't like that HE needs to change. Nope, your list is to identify the things you don't like and then ask yourself if you can live with those things forever...
Your list is for YOU, not him. He's not going to change because you're unhappy.
If you really want him to change, it can happen, but not the way you'd expect. He'll change because his girl is so awesome, so self-confident, so unmovable, so unjealous, so supportive of ALL his dreams and goals, so much his biggest fan, so SO MUCH... he'll want to be around all of that positive energy even more and start to adjust his behaviors to benefit you.
He does that as a result of your awesome relationship. He won't do it to make you happy, he'll do it because HE's so happy around you he wants more of it... including making you happy. Does that make sense?
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