[bicourious63]

I am a 45 year old white male. I love women and I am very atracted to them.But here is my problem.I love the male penis I do not find men attractive.BUT ihave always wanted to perform oral sex on a guy I love wearing women's panties I want a guy to do me analy and I want to suck him off. When I mastuerbate I have thoughts of sucking cock or having a cock in my .I have let my wife use a strap on on me when I put it on her I go down on it and suck it before she puts it in my . I love having sex with women and everything about them. But I am dying to suck cock and take it in the . I have read where they say women can be bisexual but men if you like cock you are gay but I will tell you I love both sexes .I am attracted to every thing about a women and its where I want to spend my life .Dying to do a guy oraly and have him do my and will dress up in women's panties wear make up and be his . This has been driving me crazy my whole life I squat when I pee and shave my please help me tell me what you think and what I should do. If you ever meet me you would never guess. Thanks and I look forward to hearing from you*******

[JoeCanada76]

Well by your description sounds like your bisexual. Have you have had sex with the same sex before? Have you had anything in your past, that might cause you to feel this way now. Sounds like your wife knows about this, the way feel? You need to remember that your married and you made vows and I hope that you stick to your vows no matter what.

[Credendovidis]

Please help me tell me what you think and what i should do.

You should not do anything else than whatever you prefer to do. You clearly are bisexual. No problems. Enjoy your disposition. Make the most of it !
How you can qualify your wife with other (male) sexpartners is not a point for this board, but more something for a philosophical board.
Anyway : just always make sure you protect your sex partners and yourself by using a condom. Seems to me rather problematic for sex with your wife, though!!

Ciao !

[Ash123]

At your age you are certainly past the hormonally awkward stage - so this is more than mere curiosity....


Still, with that said:

Do you:
Flirt with men? Ever?
Ever wish your partner was a man? Ever?
Do you feel like you connect emotionally better with a man? Ever?

If yes to any of the above you might be a bisexual. If not, it is a fetish.


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[Choux]

You are 45 and imply you have never acted on your desire to fellate a guy, and you imply that you are not emotionally attached to a man just his *body parts*, right?

Seems to me that you are hetero with a lady's lingerie fetish at this point. Perhaps, you have watched a lot of porn and that has strengthened and solidified your attraction to the male genitals?

The answer to your question is having safe sex with a man to see if your fantasies in any way come alive with passion in real life!

Fantasies are just fantasies. :)

[talaniman]

I have let my wife use a strap on on me

The fact your married is the point, and should play out your fantasies with her. She seems willing enough, so leave it in your marital bedroom, gay, bi, or tri. Your lucky to have such an indulging female, so don't blow it because of curiosity.

[Mr_am]

I agree with most answers above... concentrate on your marriage and on your wife.. and stop anything that ruins this... before it is too late. What you described can been seen by many as sick acts and thoughts.. so t is best to be away from that. Life should go on as it did with Adam and Eve... never with Adam and Steve.

[Alty]

Tal, I had to spread the rep, but I agree with you. Don't go outside of your marriage, it sounds like your wife is more than willing to act out any fantasies you have. Be happy that you have such an understanding and sexually open wife.

Good Luck.

[Xrayman]

Okay if you want to put the term on your physical situation-you are bisexual-physically attracted to the male genitalia.

your psychological situation is called bi-gendered.

Sexuality is two-fold. 1. gender (your sexual feelings, who you psychologicallly identify with, clearly you are balanced toward the feminine) and physical sexuality (who you want to have physical sex with-clearly females, but with a male asthetic)

we are all at different "values" shades of gray-if you like..

In our world people call you bisexual. By labels are so distinct to a as you pointed out-some people think this is 100% GAY, your feelings/wants and again as you also pointed out-you love sex with women.


people are variable in sooo many ways-cheers.

[Xrayman]

I agree with most answers above ... concentrate on your marriage and on your wife .. and stop anything that ruins this ... before it is too late. What you decribed can been seen by many as sick acts and thoughts .. so t is best to be away from that. life should go on as it did with Adam and Eve ... never with Adam and Steve.

And drop the Adam and Eve argument-go to the "religion" /christianity section for this...

[Ash123]

I love those posts that go on and on and the poster never appears again.. wonder if bicurious63 will appear here again or this will be merely an "internal discussion" :-)

[bicourious63]

At your age you are certainly past the hormonally awkward stage - so this is more than mere curiosity....


Still, with that said:

Do you:
Flirt with men? ever?
Ever wish your partner was a man? ever?
Do you feel like you connect emotionally better with a man? ever?

If yes to any of the above you might be a bisexual. If not, it is a fetish.


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NO I never flirt with men. Yes I have wished my partner was a man but not permanatly Yes I do connect better with men but I have seen truly gay men and I hate how femmine they act which I believe makes me a hypocrite.

[bicourious63]

The fact your married is the point, and should play out your fantasies with her. She seems willing enough, so leave it in your marital bedroom, gay, bi, or tri. Your lucky to have such an indulging female, so don't blow it because of curiosity.

Yes my wife is willing to act out my fantasies and she loves strapping it on. The first time she did it she got so wet and loved it. THe second time I put it on her I went down on it before she did me analy. When she was done she told me to never do that again. When iasked why she told me it turned her off to see me suck cock. When I said why is it okay to do me analy but not to suck it she said its just not right. ITS okay for me to bend over for her witch drives her nuts but not to suck it. This is a girl who has had sex with other women and wants to do it again. But tells me that is okay because she is a girl but it is not normal for guys...

[Alty]

You have more problems than I think any of us can help you with. I think it's time for your wife and you to go to counselling. She wants to be with another women, you want to be with a man, where is the marriage? Time to get some professional help.

Good luck.

[talaniman]

No one in there right mind expects their partner to like everything they do, so adjustments are made and compromises are found. Its still within the bounds of your relationship. Work at it.

[Ash123]

I think this has gone beyond mere bedroom fantasy.

Might be worth a talk with a counselor.

Spend a few months seeing if your marriage can find a firm foundation - in single counseling or as couple - whichever you are comfortable with.

This may not be the answer you were shooting for, but I think you may in fact be bisexual... or at least b-curious as you have titled yourself - which may make for challenging relationships..

[liciann]

I'm going to go against the grain here and venture to say that you are gay but you still want to be envolved with women whether that is emotionally or physically

[Synnen]

This post is from 9 months ago.

The OP hasn't posted on AMHD since Halloween--2.5 months ago.

Please watch dates when you are posting on old posts.

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