[njmom]

My daughter was married a few days ago. My cousin who is very close to her attended the wedding. There was no gift from him. This is so unlike him. He is a very generous and loving person. His gift may have been lost or misplaced. How does she ask him about it without making him uncomfortable?

[Ladyviper]

You don't ask, that is rude. There would be no way to approach the subject without sounding like a gift-grubbing greedy woman. You don't invite people to a wedding to get a gift, and you surely never ask them what happened to the one they brought. Even though he is typically generous and loving, doesn't mean he has to show his love with a gift. A person can still be generous and loving without buying someone something. Still send him a thank you card, but instead of putting what was given put thank you for attending etc. Unless he brings it up, no one should.

[jerseygir1]

I have the same question and after reading the answer that someone left I have to say that I don't think it's rude to want to know if a present is missing. If I gave a present to someone and they never received it I would want to know. My good friend attended my daughters wedding on Saturday and there is no gift from her. I'm going to mention that my daughter was missing gifts from some people that attended her wedding and what should I do because they may have been misplaced. I'll take her advice. I'd do the same with her cousin. It doesn't matter whether a gift was given but how bad would it be if a gift was given misplaced or lost and no thank you card sent and the gift giver upset because their gift was not acknowledged.