[Sarah48375]

This question goes with a previous question. My new question doesn't have anything to do with question I asked before, but if you're wonder why we're breaking up... this will answer that question.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...st-204824.html

How do I tell my daughter that I'm ending things with my current boyfriend. It's a sensitive situation. I want her to have a healthy attitude about ending relationships. Keep in perspective that the two of them have not spend an excessive amount of time together (maybe once a month), but enough that she cares for him. Any suggestions? She's 6 years old.

[anonymous_in_pa]

It's never easy to explain to a child that they will no longer have contact with someone you know they care about. You could have an open dialogue with your child about the person. Tell your child that things didn't work out, and that while that person cares very much for her, it is likely they won't be coming around anymore. You should try to get her to talk about her feelings with you. And, as a parent taking her daughters feelings into such consideration, you should try to really listen to your daughter so she will know that you love her, and this is just a part of life. You could relate it to another person in her life that she may not see often, and may not see again to help her to understand. For example, every time I take my 4 y/o to the park she gets really attached to the kids she meets. She always hopes to see them again. Chances are more likely that she won't run into them again. But, she always asks me about these kids. I always try to tell her about how people come in and out of our lives very quickly sometimes, and we just have to savor every moment we have with people, because you never know when it will be the last time.

Just an aside, I would be careful about bringing guys around your 6y/o. I understand that you are moving on with your life and you are trying to make a new family, but your 6y/o can be damaged very easily by a random relationship in many ways. Try to make sure that the next 'guy' you introduce her to and have her spending time with, is 'the one', so that your daughter isn't becoming attached to guys that are just coming and going... the way you are becoming attached to them. The dating relationship is much too complex and mature of a scenario for a 6y/o. Let your daughter be a child, she'll grow up much too quickly if you put her in those situations too quickly, and too often.

[N0help4u]

Not only becoming attached but when moms have many bf's through the years I think it can cause the children to take relationships more casually.

[N0help4u]

I was just adding on to the previous reply of reasons it is not good to bring home too many 'daddy's'. I know many girls who bring home a new guy many times a year. Not that you would do that. I was just agreeing with the previous reply.