[pluckyflamingo]

My husband and I's mothers wanted to throw our Baby Shower and I offered to do the invitations. I have a lot of family (including all my grandparents) out of state that I know for sure won't come to the shower mostly for distance purposes. However I want them to still be involved (baby gift wise) and I don't know how to properly send them a notification without just sending an invite and looking stupid. I know when you get married you can do announcements, but does that work with baby showers too? If you have ANY ideas I would greatly appreciate it!!

[automansgirl]

I would send them the invite. Though you know they won't come, you can let them know that they are welcome, and you will be informing them of the store/s you are registered at. You can even set it up to where they can purchase their gift and you and your husband can pick it up at the store (if someone wants to save on shipping). If you don't want to send them all invites, just send out an email to everyone and let them know where you are registered. A friend of mine did this (they live out of state) and we were able to buy them a gift without feeling like we were missing out on the shower. It didn't seem tacky either. They sent t a little message in the email stating that they knew people would want to buy for the baby, and if they chose to do so, could buy from their registry... which were all items that would be needed. They also requested that people tried to steer clear of buying pink. Too many people buy either pink or blue (unless you like that) and it's always nice to have something a little different. I'm sure they got lots of stuff from out of towners, and I was quite glad they sent out the email. I wanted to buy a gift, but I wanted to make sure they got something they needed. Not just something I liked.