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petone · Apr 9, 2008, 10:06 AM

If you have given a large amount of money to your son and daughter at their wedding is getting juat a photo thank you sufficdent. There was no personal note written with the photo. Also gave money before the wedding to help with other funds. When I ask bride why she did not write a personal note I was told the thank you on the photo says it all.
I felt a little hurt. A friends son got married three months before and I received a photo plus a person thank note in the card with the phot. And they receive a lot less money ffrom us. Also I have never been told what they did with our actual money while I am told what the other parents have brought. They received furniture which they could have easily brought furniture with our money also. Am I expecting too much out of this ?

LearningAsIGo · Apr 18, 2008, 12:08 PM

You're not expecting too much. In fact, the size of the gift should not matter. When I was married, everyone received a personal note, even if they only gave me an empty card.

Don't take it personally. It soulds like a lazy bride to me.

kp2171 · Apr 18, 2008, 12:32 PM

I agree that it can be disrespectful to you... and I also know how dumb I was when I got married (not about getting married)... due to being young, a little me-centered, and stressed out.

Hate to say it this way... but it wasn't until my father-in-law passed several years later, when I was preparing a eulogy, that I noticed several things he did for us on out wedding day that I had seen, but not really thought about.

Such as when my mother could not attend the wedding due to circumstances, he sat on my side of the aisle. At the time, I thought it was interesting. Later, I saw how he respected my family with that simple gesture... and how that resonated throughout many of his actions.

Not trying to get off topic... point was I missed a lot of things, I'm sure... and while I think all wedding gifts, large or small, should be aknowledged with a hand written thank you... unless there's other reasons to be concerned, other past brush offs or bad behaviors, id try as best I could to let it go.

As my father in law stated the last time I saw him:

"we are too short lived and too long gone to live our lives in frustration"