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    Jan 28, 2006, 12:31 PM
    In my thoughts
    About 20 years ago I had a short, but very intense relationship with a man who I knew would be moving in a couple of months. He said once that I was like the girl in the movie "Bladerunner" because I was willing to become attached to him even though I knew that he would be leaving and he thought that I was a very special person for that. We spoke a few times shortly after he left, and on one occasion he told me that he was not "in love" with me. I figured that was his decision and I never spoke to him after that, though he wrote me once apologizing. I thought about him off and on over the years, but lately I have had an intense desire to contact him, as though I needed to contact him, but the thing is I don't really want to. He and I are both married to other people now. Might this be important?
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    Jan 28, 2006, 02:26 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by pburke
    About 20 years ago I had a short, but very intense relationship with a man who I knew would be moving in a couple of months. He said once that I was like the girl in the movie "Bladerunner" because I was willing to become attached to him even though I knew that he would be leaving and he thought that I was a very special person for that. We spoke a few times shortly after he left, and on one occasion he told me that he was not "in love" with me. I figured that was his decision and I never spoke to him after that, though he wrote me once apologizing. I thought about him off and on over the years, but lately I have had an intense desire to contact him, as though I needed to contact him, but the thing is I don't really want to. He and I are both married to other people now. Might this be important?
    Are you married now, living with someone, have a seriouis relationship with someone. I remember and wonder what happened to many of the special people in my past. But you normaly can't and should not try to relive the past, it seldom works.

    If you have no commitment where you are now, OK, it can't hurt but don't expect too much.
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    Jan 28, 2006, 11:09 PM
    We all get those feelings of past loves now and again but for us married people trying to go back in time is not appropriate or wise .Leave these feelings where they belong in the privacy of your own heart and take no actions on them !:cool:
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    Jan 30, 2006, 06:41 PM
    Dear Pburke it was brief it WAS IT WAS intense and it is time to let go!
    Peace ranieri


    Quote Originally Posted by pburke
    About 20 years ago I had a short, but very intense relationship with a man who I knew would be moving in a couple of months. He said once that I was like the girl in the movie "Bladerunner" because I was willing to become attached to him even though I knew that he would be leaving and he thought that I was a very special person for that. We spoke a few times shortly after he left, and on one occasion he told me that he was not "in love" with me. I figured that was his decision and I never spoke to him after that, though he wrote me once apologizing. I thought about him off and on over the years, but lately I have had an intense desire to contact him, as though I needed to contact him, but the thing is I don't really want to. He and I are both married to other people now. Might this be important?
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    Feb 1, 2008, 06:32 PM
    When you go back, you regret... Trust me! Don't ruin the memories!
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    Feb 2, 2008, 09:24 PM
    Often when somebody is on your heart and mind really intense it could mean they are going through a hard time and need your 'prayers'
    That has happened to me a lot of times. I won't see a friend for ages and then I will have them heavy on my heart and then I see them again and find out they were having some problem during the same time I couldn't get them off my mind.

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