[Rolandys19]

We are extremely good friends and do do some things sexually, and kiss. The problem is that she has a boyfriend who she has bee wiith for years. She has said things like "Iwish I didnt love him so much" and other things along those lines. She claims she doesn't like me romanticly but I think sheis lying. I don't know what to do. Should I back off or continue how w are and let her decid what to do?etim

We have not had sex we both agreed on that, she just bives me bj's and we dry hump. I know she has not had sex with anyone other than him because I can tell tat she is not lying.

[Rockabilly1955mama]

Oh wow. Well if she 'loved him so much', why is she doing things with you?
Big red flag!
Back down for now. I think she's confused. Give her some time to think about what she really wants. Best of luck!

[peggyhill]

Well, if she has a boyfriend and is doing some sexual things with you, then she is cheating on him. If she truly loved him, she wouldn't be doing those things with anyone except him. If she won't commit to her "boyfriend" she probably won't commit to you. If you want more than casual sex, then break it off. Otherwise you run the risk of getting too attached and then getting hurt. You should also get tested because if she is having other sexual partners (boyfriend) besides you, then your risk of contracting something is higher. Better safe than sorry, and all. You also run the risk of the boyfriend finding out and being extremely upset with you. I can't tell you what decision to make, but I think you deserve a girl who will want to be with just you and not use you as "second best" when her boyfriend isn't around. Take a step back and ease it off so that both of you can decide what you each really want.

[justcurious55]

Sounds like she's playing you both. Get out before you end up with a broken heart.

[xxxlovecanhurtxxx]

I think he most not be making her happy as much as she thinks. She probably just wants to believe she love him. When in reality she doesn't. But since she does have a boyfriend you need to back off for now. Just let her know you will always be there for her. But you should give her boyfriend the respects of leaving her alone. If you and her were really meant to be it will happen one day.

[Rolandys19]

I thank you for helping me figure out what to do you all have been very helpful and I am going to let her figure who she really wants

[JBeaucaire]

She knows who she wants, she wants both of you. Is it really your intention to let your future rest on what "she" wants? You're doing that now and that's not working out very well is it?

Let's see, you're losing a good friendship slowly through inappropriate sexual interaction, you're settling into the role of "the other guy" since someone else has the title "boyfriend", and you don't seem to mind this situation at all?

Or do you? You're questioning it, so why not be honest with yourself instead of putting it on her. Don't you deserve a clean relationship, someone who has a concept of fidelity? Doesn't she?

You two are bad for one another. Leave it to her and you're just as likely to still be in this situation a month from now as not. Fix it yourself. Fix it like a man, be a man and seek some nobler relations with an available woman.