[faithkay1]

My Daughter is 33 years old and as of recent she will not answer her phone, will not return emails I have sent and just yesterday I drove 30 miles to her house and her car was in the driveway but she would not answer her door. She has not talked to me in weeks and we have always been very close this is unbelievably painful and I just don't understand why she can't just tell me if she is upset with me. I have gone over and over in my mind what I could have done to upset her if that is the case and I just don't know. I do know that she has spoken to other people that I work with and she is OK. Does anyone have any advice?

[Scottish2008]

How about writing a letter. You can get allot of words out on paper. How's this write her a letter expressing your feelings and send it to her with some flowers saying "I am sorry for what ever I did." It would be hard for her to turn down flowers. Plus she would some how feel bad and read your letter. She might call you or even write you back. I am no professional but I can understand how you feel. Try it. You never know what could happen. My wishes go out to you. Best of luck and please tell me the out come if you go this rout.

[lacuran8626]

It might not even be about you. Maybe she's going through something she's just not ready to share with you. I don't know you at all so please don't be offended if I ask whether there's a possibility you might have done something that has gotten back to her? Did you tell someone something she shared with you in private? Are you dating someone she doesn't like? Do you owe her money? Are you a drinker... did you maybe do something you do not remember?

If you're just the typical loving Mom, and there is truly no rift or reason for her to be upset with you, I think you need to send her something - some flowers or chocolate or whatever - with a note that says, "I love you. I don't understand why you won't speak to me, but if I've hurt you in any way I want to make it right. If something else is hurting you, please come to me. Nothing is too bad for you and I to work through together. Please call me, if only to let me know you are ok, or not ok, or whatever you feel you want to say." or something like that. Just open the door and keep in mind she might just need some time before she can come to you.

[Scottish2008]

note that says, "I love you. I don't understand why you won't speak to me, but if I've hurt you in any way I want to make it right. If something else is hurting you, please come to me. Nothing is too bad for you and I to work through together. Please call me, if only to let me know you are ok, or not ok, or whatever you feel you want to say." or something like that. Just open the door and keep in mind she might just need some time before she can come to you.

That would be a great note to go with the flowers. It even touched me. Wow nice choice of words.